choose one of the poorest country in the world and take a week from your job to visit, it'll open your mind. You will see how people manage to live in difficult times. Don't stay in a hotel room. You will come back and will not have time to even think about suicide.
Suicidal Software Developer
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Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#42Go find a therapist. Now. Don't wait. Suicidal thoughts are considered an urgent mental health issue so you will probably be covered by health care.
Even if you weren't suicidal a psychologist is a great place to air your grievances without judgment. Well worth it.
Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#43I had struggled with untreated suicidal depression for 15 years. I was very quiet about it. I am a web developer. Three years ago I was divorced from my wife, left my birth religion and quit my job. On top of all my issues I was suffering from burnout – I hadn't had a vacation in years. Since I was the religious guy at my job I worked the holidays and was promised make up time. Company policy shifted at some point an…
Out of blatant curiosity I'd like to know how you came about leaving your birth religion. Any Jehovah's Witnesses I've met seem to be so ideologically committed to that religion that I have a hard time imagining how anyone could reach a place where they stopped identifying with it. Care to shed some light on this? Also, thanks for sharing!
Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#44Suicide is a mortal sin. Try live somewhere else. Australia, Africa, Bulgaria, Island, New Zealand... and do not be a crybaby.
> and do not be a crybaby. This is literally the worst possible thing you can say to someone who is suicidal. You're a terrible person, and you should be ashamed of yourself.
> You're a terrible person, and you should be ashamed of yourself.
That's not a great thing to say to a person either. Suicidal or not.
Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#45I remember reading a quote somewhere attributed to a person who survived jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge. Paraphrased, they said that at the moment they jumped, they suddenly realized that every single problem in their life was fixable except the fact that they had just jumped off a f *ing bridge.
Found an article on that here: http://nypost.com/2013/06/30/he-jumped-off-the-golden-gate-b...
Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#46Earlier quoted context omitted.
> and do not be a crybaby. This is literally the worst possible thing you can say to someone who is suicidal. You're a terrible person, and you should be ashamed of yourself.
> You're a terrible person, and you should be ashamed of yourself. That's not a great thing to say to a person either. Suicidal or not.
I think it's a great thing to say to someone who agitates a suicidal person, personally.
Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#47I had struggled with untreated suicidal depression for 15 years. I was very quiet about it. I am a web developer. Three years ago I was divorced from my wife, left my birth religion and quit my job. On top of all my issues I was suffering from burnout – I hadn't had a vacation in years. Since I was the religious guy at my job I worked the holidays and was promised make up time. Company policy shifted at some point an…
My life has gone along pretty similar lines. It's always good when you see there are others who made it! Congratulations!
Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#48Canyon of Despair, Hope, and Meaning
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tF66cJDm9r8
Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#49Suicide is a mortal sin. Try live somewhere else. Australia, Africa, Bulgaria, Island, New Zealand... and do not be a crybaby.
I'n not sure what the down votes. Seems like change of venues is great suggestion.
In case you're serious, it's because "do not be a crybaby" is not an appropriate response to someone suffering from mental issues.
If you said to me "Hey, I cut my hand really badly, and I'm bleeding quite seriously. What should I do?" it wouldn't be correct to say "do not be a crybaby." The right answer is "Go to the hospital and get some stitches."
It's the same with mental issues. They're a wound like any other.
Re: Suicidal Software Developer
#50I remember reading a quote somewhere attributed to a person who survived jumping off the Golden Gate Bridge. Paraphrased, they said that at the moment they jumped, they suddenly realized that every single problem in their life was fixable except the fact that they had just jumped off a f *ing bridge.
Adrenaline can do that to you. Unfortunately, it passes.
I try very hard to not make big, life-changing decisions when I'm happy and energetic, because it's usually jumping (if you'll excuse the pun) feet first into commitments that I'm not going to be able to keep when I go back to normal, level attitude--or even worse--my low periods, when failing at my commitments is not only a foregone conclusion, but I know it, and it makes me feel worse.
I can't tell you how many times I've resolved "this time, I'm going to ride my bike every day" or "this time, I'm going to work a normal schedule and not procrastinate". Yes, it's about willpower, but willpower is a function of energy. No energy, no willpower.
That's one of the insidious things about depression as a disease: it works to keep itself in place. Depression (saps|is-caused-by-a-sap-of) energy. It's like a lead blanket, holding you down in the chair, keeping you from the exercise and healthful food and water and sunlight you need to get out of it. I know it's not an animate object, but it helps me to think of it as so. I won't let "it" consume me, "it" win.