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Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#91

Post by Myrmornis »

pyrrhotech wrote: post #7

Here's the better idea. Get a 9 to 5 six figure job. It will be boring, I know. Life sucks like that sometimes. Most of us have one. Next, live like a pauper, saving 60-70+% of that income. Spend your free time doing exactly 3 things 1. working on a side project 2. spending time with your girlfriend. 3. exercise (never count this out, no matter what your life circumstances otherwise) Then just wait 5 more years. You…

Sadly, as I've got older, I've found that exercise tires me out so that I can not work productively in the entire section of the day which follows. I suppose exercise more gently, or later in the day. Never been much into night exercise though.

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

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Post by orkoden »

hisyam wrote: post #47
pyrrhotech wrote: post #7

Here's the better idea. Get a 9 to 5 six figure job. It will be boring, I know. Life sucks like that sometimes. Most of us have one. Next, live like a pauper, saving 60-70+% of that income. Spend your free time doing exactly 3 things 1. working on a side project 2. spending time with your girlfriend. 3. exercise (never count this out, no matter what your life circumstances otherwise) Then just wait 5 more years. You…

What about us who live in developing nations and get paid less than USD1000 per month working as a dev? Saving money is hard over here.

Go and work in a developed nation for a couple of years?

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#93

Post by Kequc »

You've got the right idea, sooner than I did. As developers we have the capability to create amazing products. Unfortunately an amazing product isn't even remotely close to all you need. Ideally good products would bubble to the surface and people would just use them because they're better products but this is not what happens.

You need the business side of the startup handled for you. It's a huge task, maybe as big as developing the product you are working on. They need to be seducing clients, making phone calls, betting on marketing strategies, setting up events to showcase what you have, and on and on and on.

It's the same reason a big budget movie gets millions of dollars spent just on marketing. Because people don't go to see good movies. They go to see what they've seen before, what they know, or what is marketed to their face all day every day for weeks.

Especially in tech. Facebook is still going strong because it is what people know how to use. Lots of people don't browse for new software unless what they have either stops working or disappears. If you've been doing this for a long time maybe getting a secured salary for a little while is the boost you need. Before you jump back onto startups, but when you do, definitely get this business minded person that you are looking for.

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#94

Post by dang »

vxNsr wrote: post #84
dang wrote: post #71

Earlier quoted context omitted.

This is a bad comment for Hacker News. We want to optimize for signal/noise ratio. It's good to laugh, and to upvote; reporting that one laughed, and upvoted, not so much.

Not to derail this anymore but: I've often wondered about that, I know that in reddit and even slashdot these type of comments are lauded even though they add nothing to the dialog people like them, because well, they do do give us another comment to upvote, because you can add one point to the original comment. Still they deal with all that extra chaff by physically minimizing comments that don't get enough likes th…

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7494756

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#95

Post by buraksarica »

pyrrhotech wrote: post #7

Here's the better idea. Get a 9 to 5 six figure job. It will be boring, I know. Life sucks like that sometimes. Most of us have one. Next, live like a pauper, saving 60-70+% of that income. Spend your free time doing exactly 3 things 1. working on a side project 2. spending time with your girlfriend. 3. exercise (never count this out, no matter what your life circumstances otherwise) Then just wait 5 more years. You…

does "exercise" means physical? running etc?

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#96

Post by comlonq »

Here is some short and sharp advice for you:

Quit this startup crap

Get a job at a large consulting firm e.g. Accenture (you will get to work with smart and highly motivated people)

Spend time working on big enterprise projects getting paid well.

You will soon see all the complex problems that enterprises have to deal with on a daily basis. This will fuel your next startup idea.

Fix a pain point for one of your big consultancy clients and base your startup around that, you'll have a network of smart people and a market that's in need of your solution.

I've spent a few years working for a large consultancy, I've worked with mega ambitious and smart people on massive projects that I would have never seen otherwise. I've learnt so much about tech and business that I'm now ready to break out on my own and I have a massive network and a huge amount of savings to do it.

Also, don't think your life has to revolve around startups. Great careers are just as exciting.

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#97

Post by meric »

wmboy wrote: post #73
meric wrote: post #50

Earlier quoted context omitted.

"I do everything I can to make sure she's happy." That's the wrong way around. Do everything to make sure you are happy, with or without her. It's up to her if she wants to be happy with you.

Wow, maybe if you're in it for the short term, but if you want a long term relationship or marriage, that "make, sure I'm happy" mantra sure ain't going to work. Imagine if we had that attitude with our children? Or mother?

If you're not happy, whatever you do, your unhappiness will be contagious, and people close to you will catch it too. Have you ever talked to someone unhappy pretending everything is fine, and how comfortable were you in talking about happy topics about you to said person, and were you tempted to ask the other person what's bothering them?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_contagion

Therefore, for others to be happy, you must be happy first. You cannot rely on other's happiness to lift you up and IMHO you should not let your own unhappiness fester and drag everyone around you down.

Imagine a child, whose parents come home in a bad mood everyday, though they do everything to make the child happy except changing their own mood, will the child grow up as a well-rounded individual?

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#98

Post by joedavison »

kriptonic wrote: post #6
hoodoof wrote: post #3

I have been where you are. If you have $5K then you are doing well. It may sound insane but here is what you should do: 1: what's something that your girlfriend wants/needs? A bike, a computer, how about a silver necklace. Go buy it for her and give it to here. It should cost you about $1,000 2: When you give it to her, tell her you are taking her on a holiday. You are paying. Spend the $4K on the holiday. 3: Do step…

Hi. Thanks for the advise and you're right, but this isn't my usual nightly routine. I took her out this weekend, like I do most weekends and I'm taking her away to Germany this summer - she wanted to go ever since I've known her. I'm not the perfect boyfriend, but I really do love my girlfriend and I do everything I can for her. Mine and her happiness comes first, period. The only reason I'm up tonight is because I…

It sounds like her expectations are way too high, and it's taking a toll on you. Is she your girlfriend, or your wife? It might be a good idea to think long and hard about that.

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#99

Post by TempleOSV2 »

My reality is some combination of

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HRPDO63rI1E

and the Truman show.

Get a job? Fuck that -- retarded. All media talks to me, I'm worth billions.

God talks. I made His temple. I entertain God.

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God says... the programming how_about_that Shakespeare heads_I_win_tails_you_lose tattle_tale Ghost Varoom gross I_veto_that California left_field Icarus recipe I'm_bored that's_all_folks God_smack theft ha grumble what's_the_plan stuff yuck quit you_don't_like_it thank_you_very_much quit I_am_not_amused

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God says.... C:\TAD\Text\PARADISE.TXT

of waters deep, Hoarse murmur echoed to his words applause Through the infinite host; nor less for that The flaming Seraph fearless, though alone Encompassed round with foes, thus answered bold. O alienate from God, O Spirit accursed, Forsaken of all good! I see thy fall Determined, and thy hapless crew involved In this perfidious fraud, contagion spread Both of thy crime and punishment: Henceforth No more be troubled how to quit the yoke Of God's Messiah; those indulgent laws Will not be now

Re: Ask HN: I can't do this anymore, I need help

#100

Post by chmike »

buraksarica wrote: post #95
pyrrhotech wrote: post #7

Here's the better idea. Get a 9 to 5 six figure job. It will be boring, I know. Life sucks like that sometimes. Most of us have one. Next, live like a pauper, saving 60-70+% of that income. Spend your free time doing exactly 3 things 1. working on a side project 2. spending time with your girlfriend. 3. exercise (never count this out, no matter what your life circumstances otherwise) Then just wait 5 more years. You…

does "exercise" means physical? running etc?

yes. This has a well known positive effect on mood, psychic energy and morale. Of course one should not over do it. As anything, in excess it can harm.
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