The Lower Peninsula is relatively devoid of Women. San Francisco is not.
Why There Are No Girls In San Francisco
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#22As someone who is considering moving to San Francisco, this is terrifying. Please, can a local soothe me with a rebuttal?
I think it's pretty silly, but it might just be my demographic -- the guys I know who are under thirty seem to complain a lot more. The Mission, in particular, seems to be a nightmare of young guys on the prowl on weekend evenings.
Here's the thing, though: the guys I know who are single and under 30 also tend to be pretty isolated and nerdy. The ones who have other interests do fine for themselves. So, a protip for young nerdy guys everywhere: if you want to meet a girl, you've got to pull your nose out of the computer screen once in a while.
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#23this is complete nonsense, SF is full of very beautiful women. After living here for many years, I'd respectfully disagree with this. The neighborhoods with the highest density (scientifically studied over a lifetime) are The Lower Haight and The Mission.
The article didn't say there aren't any women. It just said they're not interested in us.
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#24I've had more time to think about this... This link is now the number 2 link on HN. A few days ago one of the top links was about how to survive on $36/month for food. You have to be kidding me, right? Sorry, but woman and marathon, multi-day coding sessions filled with noodles, beans, rice, oats and pb&j just don't mix.
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#25Earlier quoted context omitted.
Numbers? I myself like to focus on quality. I can't talk about NY, but having lived in LA for 5+ years I can safely say that it's a horrible place for either sex to seek out any form of lasting relationship. Of course if you love spending your evenings in bars buying drinks for willing girls under 25 (or at least who claim to be) then LA's a great place to live.
I am surprised you say that about LA. Though I haven't lived there, I have multiple friends that wouldn't trade LA for a thing! They are also not the relationship-types but do have stunning women around them whenever I meet them. As for buying drinks, you know, that depends on the individual's mojo;) I've personally never tasted alcohol so the question of buying someone else a drink is far off. But I get your point.
Oh I loved LA too for the first few years. It's a great place to live when you're in your twenties with some disposable income and aren't looking for anything too permanent. And yes, it has a bountiful supply of women who would be knockouts in any other town but are just average in LA.
After a few years though I just found it got kinda old, repetitive and a little shallow. Ironically I now live in SF :)
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#26That is spot on. Population-wise, SF men outnumber the women by something like 55%-45%. However, if you tried to estimate that number based on the nightlife scene, you'd arrive at something like 70%-30%. I think the psychological concept that the essay sites also explains the lack of girls in bars (which, for many guys, is a far more important stat than the population-wide one).
I don't know what bars you hand out in, but there are plenty of women (I prefer women to girls) in the bars/clubs I go to. You want to see beautiful women desperate to find a man, go to District (corner of Townsend and Ritch).
District is certainly a great scene for men with deep pockets and the women who love them.
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#27Somehow I suspect the guys who are getting the girls aren't at home writing blog posts about the subject.
I don't recall the author claiming he wasn't getting girls. He does, however, seem to be trying to form a logical argument.
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#28Earlier quoted context omitted.
1. If you're into Asian women(and may be they are into you), you'll feel like you've won the lottery by moving to SF. 2. If you're not, well, you'll learn to:)
I'd like to offer a corollary, if you are an Asian man... lots of Asian girls are only looking for white men... thusly lowering your pool. But San Francisco's women are beautiful and amazing. There are few other cities that compare. You may just need a bit more luck than elsewhere.
> lots of Asian girls are only looking for white men
This usually wears off around age 25 after these girls realize that the world is slightly more complicated than TV portrays it to be.
Note that I'm talking about the ones who date only white guys, not the ones who are normal and will date any attractive guy of any race.
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#29this is complete nonsense, SF is full of very beautiful women. After living here for many years, I'd respectfully disagree with this. The neighborhoods with the highest density (scientifically studied over a lifetime) are The Lower Haight and The Mission.
I lived in SF for years and think you're nuts. Completely nuts! The Lower Haight!?!?! The only explanation I have is that you've contracted the dating version of Stockholm Syndrome. Where are the beautiful women hanging out in the Lower Haight? Noc Noc? Peacock Lounge? What's your idea of beautiful? Janene Garafalo?
The Lower Haight was the one neighborhood I could count on where I'd go into a bar and there would be literally no women. Even worse odds than the Castro or the tranny parts of the Tenderloin. Try it - go to Toronado any night of the week and count the number of women.
Anyway, the best place to meet women is Union Square during lunch hour during the week. The people there are generally employed, take reasonable care of themselves, and aren't trying to live out some lame grungy hipster fantasy life straight out of 1993...
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#30As someone who is considering moving to San Francisco, this is terrifying. Please, can a local soothe me with a rebuttal?
This isn't something I've experienced in my 7 years of living in San Francisco. It sounds like a sour grapes, or as a commentator on the blog stated, "external attribution error".