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How to Stop Giving a Fuck What People Think

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There was a lot of good advice in the article, I think its a big creative leap to say someone who travels, understands their needs, dresses how they're comforable, finds inspiring friends or has a strategy for personal growth is somehow a 'cruel jerk'. On the flipside I've met people who are insufferably subservient to the status quo and they are literally the most boring and uninspiring people on earth.

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>You want to do as far opposite from this as reasonably possible. And be crushed by the arrogant, cruel jerks. (I realize becoming the enemy is in no way defeating the enemy , but using the enemy's tactics to advance better principles and achieve a just outcome is War 101 stuff. "Not giving a fuck what other people think" does not imply being mean or rude to people. If anything, the people who need this advice the mo…

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But what about downvotes and hellbans?

Also, it's hard to take this advice seriously, when the title of the article engages in polite self-censorship by partially masking foul language with asterisks.

Clearly, the author doesn't care what you think of his polite self-censorship. :-)

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I don't think he is promoting being arrogant or cruel and find your comment rather obscure. He is saying things like "learn to say no when friends pressure you to go bar-hopping" and "it's better to be loved by a few people you care about, than to be liked by everyone". Really tame stuff dressed up in foul language. This all sounds like the basic philosophy of Feynman to me.

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The rest of the article aside, I really like the notion of travelling alone, at least once. It reminds me of a quote from one of my favourite movies, Into the Wild.

”The sea's only gifts are harsh blows, and occasionally the chance to feel strong. Now, I don't know much about the sea, but I do know that that's the way it is here. And I also know how important it is in life not necessarily to be strong, but to feel strong, to measure yourself at least once, to find yourself at least once in the most ancient of human conditions, facing the blind, deaf stone alone with nothing to help you but your hands and your own head. “

Not that you have to hitchhike alone to the Alaskan wilderness! Thats extreme of course.

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This is bad. The advice given perpetuates the myth you are an individual completely separate from the world outside of it, the very feeling that alienates you from other people and the feeling behind the animosity that we feel towards others. The only way to be at peace with world( and people who live in it) is to realize that you are the world not a part of it.

>> the myth you are an individual completely separate from the world outside

Aren't you?

You were born alone, you will die alone, nobody can live your life for you, nobody can share the responsibility for your decisions.

You are alone. Everyone else is a script. The only thing that matters is whether your actions make you happy without a hangover. Why would you worry about anyone else's judgments?

(Sick people, who are made happy by abusing neighbors, will always exist, but they are, luckily, not numerous.)

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This is a pretty good way to limit your friends network, though. For example, feminists and other sjws often will delete you from everything and start a witch hunt trying to fire you, get all your friends to hate you, and so on if you "confess" to being an egalitarian and/or say anything that indicates rival theories for things outside of their ideology, like the scientific method, might have some validity.

Religion used to be like this (and still is in many developing countries, along with an uncomfortably large segment of the US), but it has to some extent grown much more milder in portions of the community. However, cult like thinking takes many forms, and inadvertently contradicting a cultist may very well become an aspiration crushing torment to the novice idgaf-er.

I guess it's all about taking baby steps at first. And sometimes antidepressants.

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This is bad. The advice given perpetuates the myth you are an individual completely separate from the world outside of it, the very feeling that alienates you from other people and the feeling behind the animosity that we feel towards others. The only way to be at peace with world( and people who live in it) is to realize that you are the world not a part of it.

>> the myth you are an individual completely separate from the world outside Aren't you? You were born alone, you will die alone, nobody can live your life for you, nobody can share the responsibility for your decisions. You are alone. Everyone else is a script. The only thing that matters is whether your actions make you happy without a hangover. Why would you worry about anyone else's judgments? (Sick people, who a…

Nobody is an island. Human existence is a collaboration, but people do need to do things for themselves. You just described narcissism.
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