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I would not be drinking to de-stress, as per the football manager.
I remember a course at be where the course leader also did the "dealing with staff with serious problems course" he commented it was the ones with a couple of vodka bottle hidden at work when you know they had a real problem.
Saturation diver: risk of death A&E doctor: risk of someone else's death TV booker: risk of a guest not showing up Doesn't really compare, does it?
It does compare. People have a MIN and a MAX level of stress, and unfortunately they usually calibrate these to the most stressful situation they usually encounter : the TV booker will feel the same level of stress when a guest is not showing up that the diver feels when he knows something went wrong and he's probably going to die. The key is realizing that unfortunately this is your natural tendency, to set you MAX…
Telling them there's worse to come doesn't help, especially in the moment. So instead, I try to use my much higher MAX to remain calm and to project calm.
Earlier quoted context omitted.
Ah yes, the Diver philosophy. Let me get right on that. Anyone else want to work a fourth of the year?
"A CDC report in 1998 estimated that the occupational fatality rate for commercial divers was forty times the national average for all workers, at an annual rate of 180 deaths per 100,000 employed divers." Yeah, I'll keep the desk job, thanks.
Saturation diver: risk of death A&E doctor: risk of someone else's death TV booker: risk of a guest not showing up Doesn't really compare, does it?
It does compare. People have a MIN and a MAX level of stress, and unfortunately they usually calibrate these to the most stressful situation they usually encounter : the TV booker will feel the same level of stress when a guest is not showing up that the diver feels when he knows something went wrong and he's probably going to die. The key is realizing that unfortunately this is your natural tendency, to set you MAX…
>> It’s pretty much impossible to feel anger at someone for driving too slowly in front of you in traffic when you’ve just come from sanding your own coffin.
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/02/opinion/sunday/ashes-to-as...
TL;DR: Football manager: Be careful about your information diet. Stop bringing everything home. And... alcohol? =\ Headteacher: Policy of being calm and non-confrontational. (But how?) Runs, which is therapeutic. Spends 5 minutes reflecting every day. Concilator (?): Represent the best side of both sides of the conflict. Seek common ground. If there's anger in the room, it's not me: "people are angry because they're…
What popped out for me was different: - A cool trick by the headteacher is to be available: to be at the school gate at the start and end of every day. - Wisdom by the conciliator: stress is created when people aren't in control. - Diver: reads; and being tired helps restore calm . - TV guest booker: people have their own demons, which have a habit of appearing when they're faced with going on live TV . And then... e…
I'm a firefighter/paramedic. He's exactly right that the most stress you'll ever feel is taking care of a critically ill or injured person and feeling like you're "behind" the call.
I'm also a full time developer (and part-time sysadmin). The two disciplines have a lot more in common than you might think. Debugging is debugging, it's just that the stakes are a bit higher in the back of the rig.
Financial reality means I get paid to use vim and save lives for free (well, less than free, I paid ~$6k in tuition to get my paramedic certification). I love my day job (I work for Silent Circle with some of the coolest and smartest people I've ever met), but I do hope that someday I get to flip which skill I get paid for full-time.
Saturation diver: risk of death A&E doctor: risk of someone else's death TV booker: risk of a guest not showing up Doesn't really compare, does it?
It does compare. People have a MIN and a MAX level of stress, and unfortunately they usually calibrate these to the most stressful situation they usually encounter : the TV booker will feel the same level of stress when a guest is not showing up that the diver feels when he knows something went wrong and he's probably going to die. The key is realizing that unfortunately this is your natural tendency, to set you MAX…
I have, perhaps unwittingly, done just that, and I've found it to be extremely helpful in my professional life. I'm a full time developer, and volunteer paramedic. This has seriously recalibrated my definition of an 'emergency' (if there's an emergency at work, it means the servers are _literally_ on fire).
A short 7 minute documentary that shows saturation diving: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcSduoKj6KU
It looks a lot like being an astronaut, except instead of PhDs from MIT running the show, you have Bob from South Philly whose favorite food is a cheeseburger with donuts for a bun.
In the case of activities like saturation diving (or in my case, firefighting), experience matters a hell of a lot more than all the PhDs in the world. After hundreds of dives (be it in smoke or water) you've seen just about everything that can go wrong, and you're in a much better position to break the chain of events leading up to a disaster.
TL;DR: Football manager: Be careful about your information diet. Stop bringing everything home. And... alcohol? =\ Headteacher: Policy of being calm and non-confrontational. (But how?) Runs, which is therapeutic. Spends 5 minutes reflecting every day. Concilator (?): Represent the best side of both sides of the conflict. Seek common ground. If there's anger in the room, it's not me: "people are angry because they're…
What popped out for me was different: - A cool trick by the headteacher is to be available: to be at the school gate at the start and end of every day. - Wisdom by the conciliator: stress is created when people aren't in control. - Diver: reads; and being tired helps restore calm . - TV guest booker: people have their own demons, which have a habit of appearing when they're faced with going on live TV . And then... e…
I think the "Serenity Prayer" is spot on, even though it reads like a 3-part joke with a punchline (paraphrased):
Don't try to change what you can't change
Try to change what you can change
Learn which is which
Suggestion: if you find yourself saying things like "Why isn't this working!?", "What's wrong with this thing!?", take the rhetorical question literally... because there is something you don't know. Focus on finding out what it is (i.e. seeing reality), and that peculiar stress will disappear.