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Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by Doctor_Fegg »

MrZongle2 wrote: post #14
buckbova wrote: post #11

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> Both parties could have handled this better. Bullshit. Kelly was a complete a-hole and deserves everything she gets. There were 100 different ways to handle this without insults. I don't even treat telemarketers this rudely.

"And deserves everything she gets" Yes, let's ruin a woman's livelihood over a bloody LinkedIn exchange because somebody's feelings were hurt.

When I skim-read that I thought you were referring to Kelly's "Good luck with the other jobs board. Oh, wait, there isn't one" comment.

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by c23gooey »

MrZongle2 wrote: post #27
shock-value wrote: post #13

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The requester was cordial, if persistent. The response was condescending, rude, insensitive... and the pejoratives are essentially unending. Even "Your invite to connect is inappropriate, beneficial only to you, and tacky", is egregiously presumptuous. I really hope that's not your attitude towards people doing what they can to find a job, MrZongle.

By default, I don't have a problem with anybody trying to find a job...especially in this economy. Networking can be a powerful tool, and I can respect that. But let's not lose sight of what a LinkedIn connection also entails: it means that all of your other connections are now visible to each other, and to some people that may imply a degree of exclusivity. To some, LinkedIn is not a contact-free-for-all like Facebo…

There is a security setting in LinkedIn to hide your contacts from everyone but yourself...

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by Noted »

ingsoc79 wrote: post #19

Typical Millennial response. You hurt my feelings so I'm going to shame you on social media! Good luck to anyone willing to step in the legal & PR minefield of employing this girl.

Typical non-millennial response to not know how to tactfully deal with declining connection requests? I fail to see how this "Senior Professional"'s response doesn't warrant the reaction she's received when she runs a job board.

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by exelius »

mildtrepidation wrote: post #36
exelius wrote: post #23

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Anyone who has an MBA and puts it in their title is asking for it. I mean really, who does that? Not anyone with an MBA from anywhere worthwhile...

That's phenomenally backwards...

Not really; if you got your MBA at a good school you learn that putting "MBA" in your title is a low-class thing to do. In most of the business world, everyone just expects you have one and will look up your LinkedIn profile to see where you went if they care.

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by shock-value »

MrZongle2 wrote: post #29
shock-value wrote: post #20

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The only thing that happened to her was that her email (multiple similarly worded emails, in fact) was posted publicly. If that's all it takes to ruin her career than maybe she shouldn't have written the email the way she did.

And what was the purpose of posting the email? To punish and embarrass. Careers have been ruined in such a manner.

The point is that posting the email wouldn't have been a punishment if she would have responded in a socially acceptable manner. She brought it on herself.

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by Anderkent »

mindcrime wrote: post #25
jnevill wrote: post #22

So... people actually use linkedin? I was under the assumption, after years and years of emails from linkedin, that it's really just a crowd-sourced spam generator. Is that not the case? mind.blown( )

Um, yeah... LinkedIn is an amazingly useful tool in many ways. Yes, being on there can result in the occasional incoming spam message, but a lot of us find the value far outweighs that minor detriment.

Occasional spam message? I have yet to get a linked-in notification that's not spam. "Hi, I noticed you ask to connect to people who you've worked with before, but I'm a recruiter so I don't give a shit."

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by MrZongle2 »

c23gooey wrote: post #42
MrZongle2 wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

By default, I don't have a problem with anybody trying to find a job...especially in this economy. Networking can be a powerful tool, and I can respect that. But let's not lose sight of what a LinkedIn connection also entails: it means that all of your other connections are now visible to each other, and to some people that may imply a degree of exclusivity. To some, LinkedIn is not a contact-free-for-all like Facebo…

There is a security setting in LinkedIn to hide your contacts from everyone but yourself...

Yes, but it it an all-or-nothing affair?

If I've got several hundred connections, do I want to hide them all from my other contacts?

Some may see that being a bit more exclusive in connecting may be the best solution.

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by scott_s »

asdfologist wrote: post #30

As much as Blazek acted completely out of line, I applaud her for making a real apology: "I sincerely apologize for the harsh words and unprofessional, unwarranted actions in my response to you... I should have lent a hand, as well as hope, and I failed at that. You and many others, both strangers and colleagues, have reminded me that my personal journey in humility and gentleness is far from complete. I wish you all…

Almost. I hate any variant of the phrasing "I apologize." It still serves to distance yourself from the apology. An apology is a thing. You can say that another person apologizes. But "I apologize" is not, in itself, an apology. An apology is saying "I am sorry."

The reason I care is that I think it takes more humility to say the simple words "I am sorry" than "I apologize." Saying "I am sorry" is an admission of feeling. Saying "I apologize" is trying to narrate at event that did not actually happen.

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by mikeleeorg »

I've always taken an approach of "always be respectful to everyone" - not just to be a kind person, but also because you never know when someone may reciprocate that kindness.

In some cases, mere acquaintances have turned around to introduce me to job candidates, customers, business partners, etc.

This approach works in the social world too, in terms of dating ;-)

Re: Talk About An Unprofessional LinkedIn Response

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Post by Noted »

MrZongle2 wrote: post #39
corresation wrote: post #21

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If she had stopped at "Your invite to connect is inappropriate, beneficial only to you, and tacky" we wouldn't have even known about it. Do you actually use LinkedIn? You seem to be assigning a connection with some sort of profound meaning that it simply doesn't have. Indeed, if you follow LinkedIn's standard user flow, it will generate connection invites for anyone who you've ever corresponded with and saved as a co…

Yes, to answer your question, I do use LinkedIn. But I am picky about who I network with, because I feel that my connections also reflect upon me. If I wanted to do otherwise, I'd use Facebook. The response from the woman in question went too far, and it isn't too hard to draw the conclusion that she probably shouldn't be in a job involving networking if she has that reaction.... but it doesn't change the fact that t…

Actually, as far as I've read, both connection requestors who received this type of treatment tried to add her so that she could see their profiles. The data they sent to join the job board is fairly limited (doesn't include a resume) so both individuals felt that allowing her to see their profiles could be beneficial, not trying to "farm" this woman's connections for jobs. They're trying to join the job board to find jobs.
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