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Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by declan »

JshWright wrote: post #105
declan wrote: post #45

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You seem to be mistaken on both counts. First, a federal law called EMTALA requires hospitals to provide emergency treatment regardless of citizenship or ability to pay. Second, there is more violence in the UK (about 2.5x-3x times as much per capita -- 993 violent crimes/100K vs. 399 violent crimes/100K) than the United States. And more pro-2A decisions from courts have led to a trend of reduction in US gun violence…

> First, a federal law called EMTALA requires hospitals to provide emergency treatment regardless of citizenship or ability to pay. s/hospitals/hospitals that accept payments from medicaid and medicare/

Which is only, what, 99% of hospitals?

Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by clavalle »

lobotryas wrote: post #14
helpmymomisx wrote: post #2

I’m 22. I’m stressed. Everything’s fucked up. My mom is dying. I need help. TL;DR If anyone has any work for me (strengths are Ruby/Rails, data mining) please email me. ilovemymomjeanine@gmail.com (will go to my professional email) -- This is in regards to https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7214446 If you’re in Minnesota and would like to meet with me, let’s meet. Very-long; will read: I’m posting here so I can ven…

To me it sounds like you never had a long-term plan for the treatment or your own future. You jumped in, blew your savings, and now you're stuck. It's too late for "could-have, should-have", but if you somehow manage to procure more money, at least consider alternatives such as slower treatment schedules or flying your mother to a country where such treatments are cheaper (India comes to mind as a potential option)[0…

What 22 year old plans for their parent's cancer? Or really has a solid idea of exactly what their future has in store?

He was doing what people in their early 20s are supposed to do: take risks. He was probably involved in startups before his mom got sick.

Let's not beat him up for doing what many of us are doing right now, then getting caught in an unpredictable and terrible situation and trying to do what he thought was right at the time under a lot of stress and emotion.

Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by ry0ohki »

robotresearcher wrote: post #83
declan wrote: post #45

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You seem to be mistaken on both counts. First, a federal law called EMTALA requires hospitals to provide emergency treatment regardless of citizenship or ability to pay. Second, there is more violence in the UK (about 2.5x-3x times as much per capita -- 993 violent crimes/100K vs. 399 violent crimes/100K) than the United States. And more pro-2A decisions from courts have led to a trend of reduction in US gun violence…

Those violent crimes in the UK don't tend to involve guns and/or becoming dead. UK homicide rate: 1.2 per 100,000 persons US homicide rate: 4.7 per 100,000 persons You are more than twice as likely to get beaten up in the UK than the US. You are around 4 times as likely to be murdered in the US than the UK. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_intentiona... The UK has a violence problem, probably at leas…

Those statistics mean little outside of cohorts. I would wager to guess the murder rate for the class of people who visit HackerNews is 1 per 10,000,000. Being randomly murdered is not a rational fear in America.

Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by declan »

robotresearcher wrote: post #83
declan wrote: post #45

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You seem to be mistaken on both counts. First, a federal law called EMTALA requires hospitals to provide emergency treatment regardless of citizenship or ability to pay. Second, there is more violence in the UK (about 2.5x-3x times as much per capita -- 993 violent crimes/100K vs. 399 violent crimes/100K) than the United States. And more pro-2A decisions from courts have led to a trend of reduction in US gun violence…

Those violent crimes in the UK don't tend to involve guns and/or becoming dead. UK homicide rate: 1.2 per 100,000 persons US homicide rate: 4.7 per 100,000 persons You are more than twice as likely to get beaten up in the UK than the US. You are around 4 times as likely to be murdered in the US than the UK. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_intentiona... The UK has a violence problem, probably at leas…

Nobody is saying that gun violence doesn't exist (though I wonder how much is limited to inner cities in areas none of us want to live in if we have a choice).

But we're talking at cross purposes. The first post talked about violence. The second talked about violence. The third in the sequence, yours, switched the discussion to talk about homicides. Not all violent crimes are homicides.

Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by brd »

kjackson2012 wrote: post #50

I'm sorry for your problems, but could you please clarify a few questions for me because there are a lot of problems with what I'm reading: 1) You claim to be 22 years old, but your dad hasn't had a relationship with your mom in 25 years... what does that even mean? 2) You're 22 years old and you accumulated $150k already? What sort of work did you do, and for how long? 3) You claim to be penniless, but you spend you…

I have to say I find it suspicious that 284 days ago he posted about how he had "no cash to build an MVP" and yet 3 months later he had 150k in savings.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5727255

Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by lwan »

twoodfin wrote: post #94
joshmn wrote: post #40

Earlier quoted context omitted.

She does have insurance, and it's great insurance. The treatments are just so specialized that the bill, after the insurance does their "work", is still anywhere from $10k to $50k. They've made it clear that because the treatments are so specialized and that they have had to go outside of the normal realms for a patient (e.g. they had to bring in another specialist), that once the money stops flowing, things will nee…

She does have insurance, and it's great insurance. The treatments are just so specialized that the bill, after the insurance does their "work", is still anywhere from $10k to $50k. That is not "great insurance". I am not a big fan of PPACA, but every single one of those plans has an annual out-of-pocket limit on costs (~$6,400 per individual, twice that for a family). My out of pocket limit on my (excellent) BCBS PPO…

there is no way in hell she's getting a better plan while having a terminal illness.

Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by rhspeer »

Post on ruby.mn, with a link to a github account with some code samples, preferably with a unit test.

Minnesota is an outstanding place that has programs in place for these sorts of things, and plenty of work. The winters are brutal, but the people are well read & kind.

In fact I referred a PHP transplant from DC to 4 startups today, I'll email you for your deets and get the ball rolling.

[UPDATE] Meeting at Spyhouse NE to get him sorted @7 we'll be the ones dressed as nerds by accident instead of on purpose.

Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by dragonwriter »

declan wrote: post #45
soperj wrote: post #26

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Main reason I never want to live in America is health care. Just knowing that no matter what I'll be admitted to the hospital and treated is something I never want to live without. *2nd reason would be gun violence.

You seem to be mistaken on both counts. First, a federal law called EMTALA requires hospitals to provide emergency treatment regardless of citizenship or ability to pay. Second, there is more violence in the UK (about 2.5x-3x times as much per capita -- 993 violent crimes/100K vs. 399 violent crimes/100K) than the United States. And more pro-2A decisions from courts have led to a trend of reduction in US gun violence…

> First, a federal law called EMTALA requires hospitals to provide emergency treatment regardless of citizenship or ability to pay.

Required emergency treatment is just short-term stabilization, it doesn't include the further treatment which may be medically necessary to provide a reasonable chance of good outcomes. This means, approximately, that without ability to pay, your treatment will stop at the point at which you would be admitted to the hospital from the ER.

Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help

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Post by RealGeek »

helpmymomisx wrote: post #2

I’m 22. I’m stressed. Everything’s fucked up. My mom is dying. I need help. TL;DR If anyone has any work for me (strengths are Ruby/Rails, data mining) please email me. ilovemymomjeanine@gmail.com (will go to my professional email) -- This is in regards to https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7214446 If you’re in Minnesota and would like to meet with me, let’s meet. Very-long; will read: I’m posting here so I can ven…

It is depressing that how US healthcare system is structured to bankrupt middle class people so healthcare companies can make more billions.

Can any of these things work for you?

1) Can your mother get medicaid? I believe there is almost no copay with medicaid.

2) Can you get any other medical insurance plan where you have lesser or no copay? May be something through Healthcare.gov?

3) Can you go to India and get medical treatment? Most treatments and medicines in India cost about 1/10 of US. There are several hospitals and doctors in India which can provide treatments compared to US. I can dig up some information if you want to do this.

4) A crowd funding campaign?

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