Have you thought about applying for medicaid? As far as I understand they cover all your medical expenses, as long as you're making below a certain amount per year?
My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
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Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#12Will it take every single voting age person in America having a first-hand experience like this to change health care?
How can any sane person prefer this over the alternative offered by Developed countries?
Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#13Sorry to hear this. Do you have an account where we can donate money?
Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#14I’m 22. I’m stressed. Everything’s fucked up. My mom is dying. I need help. TL;DR If anyone has any work for me (strengths are Ruby/Rails, data mining) please email me. ilovemymomjeanine@gmail.com (will go to my professional email) -- This is in regards to https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7214446 If you’re in Minnesota and would like to meet with me, let’s meet. Very-long; will read: I’m posting here so I can ven…
To me it sounds like you never had a long-term plan for the treatment or your own future. You jumped in, blew your savings, and now you're stuck.
It's too late for "could-have, should-have", but if you somehow manage to procure more money, at least consider alternatives such as slower treatment schedules or flying your mother to a country where such treatments are cheaper (India comes to mind as a potential option)[0]. Also, consider a second opinion to understand whether continued treatments will make a fundamental difference.
>I’m also terrified of driving in the snow (PTSD). I Uber everywhere
I've heard of PTSD from rape or war, but this is totally new to me. What happened?
>I’m yet to get a paycheck after almost 2 months of work because my co-founder hit a snag with some investors from a previous gig. I’m OK with this because in the long-run things will be golden.
That sounds very strange to me. If my family was in need, I personally would jump on a first job with a stable paycheck that I could get so I could (slowly but surely) provide money. This seems like poor timing to bet on a lottery ticket (which, as HN reminds us, most startups are).
[0] - inb4/none of these are an option because reasons
Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#15Will it take every single voting age person in America having a first-hand experience like this to change health care? How can any sane person prefer this over the alternative offered by Developed countries?
No not even that I think. People in the USA perceives any kind of added tax, as money stolen from the state. Most of them do not have the notion of public regarded as something positive.
Let's say it's a very different perception of property, compared to Europe.
I am trying to convince myself that it's not wrong it's just different.
I try to accept the fact that I don't understand their approach and get over with, otherwise turns me kinda crazy.
Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#16Can you let us know your paypal account where ppl can send money or any other way to send money to you?
Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#17Will it take every single voting age person in America having a first-hand experience like this to change health care? How can any sane person prefer this over the alternative offered by Developed countries?
how can a sane person accept death?
Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#18Serious question: Why were these bills paid by the son who would have no financial obligation in the case of his mother's bankruptcy?
America's health care safety net is bankruptcy and the 'cannot refuse critical treatment based on ability to pay' role of emergency rooms.
Seems the right course to take in these situations is to string along the hospitals until it ends up in bankruptcy and only pay out of pocket from the next generation when a deposit is required before care will be given. I don't like it, but that's the way the system works currently.
Edited to add: I'm clearly ignorant of some of the mechanics here, so longer explanations of how things work with illnesses like this would be very much appreciated.
Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#19I’m 22. I’m stressed. Everything’s fucked up. My mom is dying. I need help. TL;DR If anyone has any work for me (strengths are Ruby/Rails, data mining) please email me. ilovemymomjeanine@gmail.com (will go to my professional email) -- This is in regards to https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=7214446 If you’re in Minnesota and would like to meet with me, let’s meet. Very-long; will read: I’m posting here so I can ven…
Are you just using your money for copays/deductibles or does she not have any insurance at all? Will they stop treating her if you stop paying? Defer as long as possible and either work out a payment plan later or let the insurance company eat it down the road. I know many people who have been bankrupted paying off medical bills as they come but you should pay just enough to keep the treatments going. Let everything else ride then declare bankruptcy if any of it is in your name.
Re: My mom is dying, and my bank account is dry. I need help
#20Serious question: Why were these bills paid by the son who would have no financial obligation in the case of his mother's bankruptcy? America's health care safety net is bankruptcy and the 'cannot refuse critical treatment based on ability to pay' role of emergency rooms. Seems the right course to take in these situations is to string along the hospitals until it ends up in bankruptcy and only pay out of pocket from…
Yes I hope there will be some discussion around this!