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To illustrate, "If you read this far, you should follow my RSS feed here." :)
Yes, that is another application of word power tools... although if I wanted to make it even more arm-twisting I would say "Because you read this far, you should follow..." "Because" is another well-known power word.
Works with online dating too. "Would you like to go out some time?" bad "I really like you, would you like to meet?" terrible "Let's go out at the weekend, is really great" good "I am free Tuesday and Friday, let's get a beer and continue this conversation in real life" good
If a man does as you suggestion, he is making the woman reject him multiple times if she does not want to go out with him (which is the most common case) and he is putting the conversational burden on the woman to explain whether the rejection is only because she has plans that particular weekend.
Very good article. Posted my response here: http://swombat.com/2014/1/31/let-me-know-if-i-can-help
Communication is ultimately an expression of an individual's inner attitude, and to call this a quirk of language is focusing too much on the actions without giving any thought as to the attitude that produces those actions. If one has an internally confident, go-gettin', "always be closing" attitude, all of their actions and communication will flow from that. It's a much better use of energy to focus on cultivating…
How should one focus on cultivating a quiet confidence while never taking action? While it's true that often feigned confidence appears weak and insincere it is also one of the best ways to develop 'real' confidence..
We're all just faking it until we make it.
Earlier quoted context omitted.
Communication is ultimately an expression of an individual's inner attitude, and to call this a quirk of language is focusing too much on the actions without giving any thought as to the attitude that produces those actions. If one has an internally confident, go-gettin', "always be closing" attitude, all of their actions and communication will flow from that. It's a much better use of energy to focus on cultivating…
What about the (somewhat proven) idea that pulling these 'power tricks' to keep up the act, and seeing them return positive results does cultivate the inner confidence we should be seeking. How should one focus on cultivating a quiet confidence while never taking action? While it's true that often feigned confidence appears weak and insincere it is also one of the best ways to develop 'real' confidence.. We're all ju…
I didn't say it was an either/or dichotomy between attitude and action, simply that there was zero thought given to the attitude, which is the source from which all of our actions and behaviors flow. Obviously there must be some balance -- because we are called to act with courage even when the confident attitude isn't quite there yet -- but a list of "power tricks" is 100% focused on just imitating the actions without improving one's inner attitude.
We're all just faking it until we make it.
Sure, someone who imitates actions/behaviors without any change of heart/attitude is "faking it." In fact, this is the greatest reason why people fail to achieve long-lasting personal change, because it requires too much effort to "fake it" in every area of life.
But this trite saying about "faking it" does not apply to the man who does the hard work of reshaping his inner attitude (along with acting in the face of fear as life demands). If you want oranges instead of apples from the tree in your back yard, you don't spend your days hanging oranges on the apple tree. You dig up the apple tree and nurture an orange tree.
Doesn't he fail with the last para call to action? >"Want to try out this technique on more prospects? [...] He needs to be more positive and active in his language and provide an action for us to follow, no? "Try out this technique with your prospects." ?