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haha! w00t hit me up: darkxanthos at gmail dot com My life would be improved ten fold by knowing a woman with interests like yours even if just as friends. EDIT: Also it's email how badly could I possibly stalk you?
HN dating-site spinoff anyone?
That said, if those two get together they should let the rest of us know.
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I second this. I can't relate the the part about a sense of security, but I've found that it's very important to "take care of myself", in whatever form. For me that often means cleaning my apartment, taking care of business I've been procrastinating on, etc. Those are concrete, actionable tasks that are guaranteed to make me feel better, even if only a little bit. At work, I similarly try to focus on specific small…
100% agreement on cleaning my apartment. I find this is the single most useful thing I can do in terms of my day-to-day emotional health.
I blogged. I had a pretty big readership (three hundred or so followers on Tumblr, not sure how many followed on RSS), and I wrote a lot about how I felt and what I was going through. The conversations I had with my readers led to a lot of self-growth and peace. I grew up a lot writing about the experience. There were also some moments of personal vindication: After writing about a particularly assed argument with he…
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Does this really happen? Does this count? Another soldier, Staff Sgt. Daniel Shannon, told CBS that his PTSD changed him completely. "I started smashing furniture, very rapidly; so I didn’t know what I was doing ‘til it happened. I’d get mad so fast, so angry fast, and just lash out." ( http://www.thecommentfactory.com/irregular-army-the-prevalen... ) It only takes a bit of googling to find all sorts of information o…
I don't doubt that people flip out. I don't even doubt that thousands of people among the millions who served in the military have flipped out. What I'm wondering about is whether otherwise undamaged people who repress their emotions eventually go nuts, or whether people who control their emotions end up in control of their emotions. People who eat small portions generally don't suddenly devour a turkey. People who o…
imho the opposite of repressing one's emotions is not controlling them; it's bottling them up.
to me, controlling one's emotions means feeling the pain, happiness, sorrow, anger, whatever, and then choosing how you want to act based on feeling that emotion. most people assume that emotion dictates behavior, but you always have a choice about how to react. i.e. you can feel the sting when someone insults you, but you can choose not to punch him even though you're feeling hurt.
bottling up one's emotions, otoh, represses them. you choose to ignore (usually negative) emotions. these are the ones that tend to come up in destructive ways later on.
You need to communicate your situation to family/friends, make yourself not feel isolated. Many people feeling anxiety and depression think they're the only ones they know, whereas many people are vulnerable. And when i see people prone to chemical dependencies or extreme behaviors, i urge them to seek counseling. One thing that helps me is multiple 5-15 minute exercise breaks over the day. You can walk up a hill or…
I agree 100%. Ubuntu has a program built into gnome that forces you to take breaks. Go to Keyboard preferences > Typing Break. I set it to 10 minutes of work / 5 minute break. I can focus more, take short breaks to get things done (eat, brush my teeth, clean), and get more done than I do if I just stare at a screen for an hour straight.
Thank you for asking this question, especially at this time. Responses of other people are a lot helpful for me as well. Sharing how I deal with similar situations: I go out and try to stay out as much as possible. Working in a coffee shop gives the illusion that you are not alone. I also cook elaborate dinner involving pasta, sit down with a glass of wine and watch a movie as a picker-upper. But of late I've been us…
EscapePod is also great for the commute to work, road trips across the country, and exercising (if you have a routine, anyway).
It rarely fails to keep my spirits up. (Even the sad stories are pretty cathartic.)
Slightly tangential, but I had this thought the other day. In our industry, shutting oneself into a room with a computer and being alone with our own thoughts is considered functional and praiseworthy. I think a lot of my most productive colleagues deal with almost everything in life by diving deep down in this mode. Is this really a good thing?
I've read recently about extreme social deprivation (like solitary in prison) and I've begun to wonder a bit about similarities.