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If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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When the world started behaving appropriately toward me… I was gobsmacked. Let me be clear that you should treat everyone nicely. There's no reason not to. But what that woman was experiencing is a manifestation of the commonly-held belief that being 100 pounds overweight is a negative quality that is entirely changeable (as evidenced by the fact that the person in question lost the 100 pounds). I don't know why we s…

No, she was experiencing constant and unnecessary judgment by people like you.

Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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@sostephosays, just a note on here (because I don't know how to comment on Tumblr, probably because I don't have an account) that I like your writing, and you should keep at it.

The programming skills will come with time, just focus on improving your craft one project at a time and constantly push yourself to learn something new. I've been in this industry for over a decade, and considered experienced in a number of languages and areas... but I am still learning. You'll get it.

Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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It's like you're bringing feminism into this just to troll. He said absolutely nothing about feminism.

I know that he didn't actually say it. But that's how it sounds.

I think parent clearly didn't think it sounds like that. I don't think it sounds like that. Perhaps you should examine why you think it sounds like that.

Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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post #13

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I know that he didn't actually say it. But that's how it sounds.

I think parent clearly didn't think it sounds like that. I don't think it sounds like that. Perhaps you should examine why you think it sounds like that.

Considering his downvotes it's clear I'm not the only one.

Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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> When the world started behaving appropriately toward me… I was gobsmacked. (throwaway account to say) As a transgender guy, I have experienced a similar contrast in how I was treated as a female and how I am treated as a man. There were certainly clear cases of discrimination, but I never expected the moment-to-moment differences! As for the change to a tech job. I suspect there are multiple reasons for such a chan…

Do you mind elaborating on some of the moment to moment differences? Sounds interesting...

The single biggest are intentional inclusion in more technical conversations and intentional non-inclusion in more self-appearance conversations. Along the same lines are expected background knowledge.

For reference, I'm in my mid-40's and transitioned over 5 years ago.

Prior to transitioning, I would frequently overhear or walk-into technical conversations about subjects that were relevant or of interest to me. While there were a handful of guys who understood my interest in technology and would intentionally include me, most simply wouldn't even think of including me (and I didn't know any women who were into technology). Thankfully, I never had a guy react badly when I included myself in a conversation, although I would occasionally get odd looks because of my interest and knowledge. Now I'm very intentionally sought out by colleagues (male and female) during technology conversations that are relevant or of interest.

Prior to transitioning, I frequently had acquaintances make suggestions about my appearance; make-ups I should try, how I should fix my hair, etc. While I've had lots of appearance-related conversations with my trans-friends, and I've had the typical, "wow you've changed a lot since I last saw you" conversations (but not as many as I expected). Other than those, I've only had one person comment on my appearance.

One of the more surprising topics that's changed has been car talk. I've never considered myself a car-person, prior to transition this wasn't ever a problem. Since I transitioned, it has come up with alarming frequency. While I've made a point of letting people know that I don't know a lot about cars, I still get comments that imply I'm an idiot for not knowing more.

Another thing that I find interesting is that prior to transitioning, I never had anyone suggest that I go a blind date with a friend of theirs; not one single time! Since I transitioned it's happened several times.

Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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post #13

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think parent clearly didn't think it sounds like that. I don't think it sounds like that. Perhaps you should examine why you think it sounds like that.

Considering his downvotes it's clear I'm not the only one.

I think mratzloff's comment is a better explanation for that... sorry for turning this into reddit.

Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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When the world started behaving appropriately toward me… I was gobsmacked. Let me be clear that you should treat everyone nicely. There's no reason not to. But what that woman was experiencing is a manifestation of the commonly-held belief that being 100 pounds overweight is a negative quality that is entirely changeable (as evidenced by the fact that the person in question lost the 100 pounds). I don't know why we s…

Why do you have to be so dismissive? You're basically saying, "you're not saying anything we don't already know, just go back in your hole and don't bother me with your feminist garbage. This is the way the world works and you should just deal with it." That may not be how you meant it, but that's how it comes across.

I regret saying this already, but, uh, overweight men are also subjected to unfair judgement.

Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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post #5

> When the world started behaving appropriately toward me… I was gobsmacked. (throwaway account to say) As a transgender guy, I have experienced a similar contrast in how I was treated as a female and how I am treated as a man. There were certainly clear cases of discrimination, but I never expected the moment-to-moment differences! As for the change to a tech job. I suspect there are multiple reasons for such a chan…

if you think being an asian woman in tech will give you a "boost" you're absolutely wrong. Not even in China will being an asian woman give you a "boost" in the tech industry.

Re: If You're Unhappy, Consider Tech

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It's all down to your coworkers. Every single bad thing that is talked about in this piece? I've encountered, and I work in tech. I've been desperately searching for another tech job for the past 2 years and striking out every time. Even when I get a second interview, or I have a great 4 hour interview and get along great with a potential new boss. Then there's the places that won't even give me the time of day, who…

Hi there, have you tried remote? Nobody has ever given me a chance since I never was in tech, but I think I reached competent skills in both web development (django-flask-python) and web design, so I thought I might as well give it a try. I redesigned my website last week and I submitted a bootstrap template to wrapbootstrap yesterday. Maybe it won't work, but then again, what if it does?

Now I am thinking what to do next to add stuff to my portfolio, I have some ideas, I think maybe with a small portfolio I could start getting some gigs and then will see. The only thing I realized is that it takes time, you won't solve this in a day.

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