"McKinlay had popped up in her search for 6-foot guys with blue eyes", I'm completely out of touch with dating but is it normal or accepted nowadays to search for narrow physical attributes? to me this is an example of shallowness.
How a Math Genius Hacked OkCupid to Find True Love
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#172Is this legal?
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#173It's funny... doing all this 'hacking' to create profiles with awesome match %'s... is pretty pointless. In my personal experience, a match below 80% is a red flag (serious incompatibilities), but above 85% there aren't any big differences. Like he said, he went on 55 dates, but only three second dates. The 55 dates really isn't too hard to do without the hacking, it's just a question of time. And the "three second d…
Agreed that the clusters is interesting! Having bots visit girls with high match percentage and thereby direct in-bound messages from girls seems huge as well. Seems like girls are more likely to message you if you have such a high match. He definitely drove a ton of first-dates with minimal per-unit effort. Your point about the conversion rate of 2nd-date is still valid.
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#174Earlier quoted context omitted.
"And then met a girl the very next day (not kidding) that I really hit it off with when I wasn't looking" This, IMHO, is the best advice. I remember the Dalai Lama's advice about finding happiness. How do I find happiness? "Stop lookin, be happy", he said. Same with dating. How do I find a date? Stop looking. More exactly, live life, and in time, you'll meet someone. Part of the reason why is that someone sort of on…
> "Stop lookin, be happy" It's true that happiness comes when you're settled with your lot in life. But you will instinctively rebel if you settle too early, on too little; this site is sort of dedicated to the art of not settling too early.
You're confusing being happy with being satisfied.
As Bruce Lee put it: Be happy, but never satisfied.
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> I've summarized the average guy profile here: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/RegularOKCGuy?disable_mobile=... . Annoyingly enough very similar to my profile! :P But yeah. I have a good job, I go to the gym and workout, what the heck else am I expected to do? I'm working my ass off to make a positive impact on the world. Fuck if I am going to drop that so I can be a narcissistic asshole, quit my job, and fly around…
Your messages sound really stilted and like you're really nervous. They jump from one random topic to the next, without actually showing anything uniquely you . > But, well, I own a 5 foot long remote controlled floating dolphin. I gave up on being 100% sane long ago. Technically I am sane, but I do enjoy having fun toying around with things. I also drive a bright orange car! What this says: I own toys, you should kn…
So, where's the secret staircase that leads to the lair of angry geese on the river? It sounds like a fun time for me and my wife.
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I spent about one year on OkC @ approx 40minutes/day on the site, and got about 20 first dates, 10 second dates, 2 third dates, and 2 fourth dates. They were almost all 85+% matches, and weren't that hard to find. However, I would say that my manual filtering probably took way less time than he spent implementing his models. He probably learned more engineering and advanced math while I learned how to read subtle mes…
"And then met a girl the very next day (not kidding) that I really hit it off with when I wasn't looking" This, IMHO, is the best advice. I remember the Dalai Lama's advice about finding happiness. How do I find happiness? "Stop lookin, be happy", he said. Same with dating. How do I find a date? Stop looking. More exactly, live life, and in time, you'll meet someone. Part of the reason why is that someone sort of on…
>This, IMHO, is the best advice.
Sure, it works well in Disney movies.
Re: How a Math Genius Hacked OkCupid to Find True Love
#177It's funny... doing all this 'hacking' to create profiles with awesome match %'s... is pretty pointless. In my personal experience, a match below 80% is a red flag (serious incompatibilities), but above 85% there aren't any big differences. Like he said, he went on 55 dates, but only three second dates. The 55 dates really isn't too hard to do without the hacking, it's just a question of time. And the "three second d…
I think the main point here is that one has to enable his luck. I mean, meeting somebody you'd fall in love with is luck. You can not use data for that. However, you could use data to enable yourself to meet enough people so that the luck had chance to happen. Of course, it is not the only way - it's just one of the ways. And, I guess, a way that appeals to the HN crowd :)
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> The 55 dates really isn't too hard to do without the hacking, it's just a question of time. That I disagree with, 4 years and hundreds upon hundreds of hours sunk into OKC, and I've had maybe 2 dozen dates from it. Knowing how to optimize the site would be very useful. From pictures (OKC has MyBestFace that helps with that) to profile text. This guy obviously had good pictures (great pictures alone can make a profi…
Change your income to say "Greater than 1 million / year". The women will come to you. They might not be the women you want, but it's a much smarter attribute to lie about than say your height which she'll figure out right away.
I don't think the goal is to get any random women to talk to you. This can be achieved much easier. The goal here is get the specific kind of women - ones that you'd enjoy being with - to notice you and talk to you. It's like "I want to meet a person, any person" (just go out and you're done in about a minute unless you live in a desert) and "I want to find a friend" (that may be a bit harder and may not just work by stopping random strangers and asking them to be your friend, they'd probably think you're panhandling).
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#179Earlier quoted context omitted.
"And then met a girl the very next day (not kidding) that I really hit it off with when I wasn't looking" This, IMHO, is the best advice. I remember the Dalai Lama's advice about finding happiness. How do I find happiness? "Stop lookin, be happy", he said. Same with dating. How do I find a date? Stop looking. More exactly, live life, and in time, you'll meet someone. Part of the reason why is that someone sort of on…
> "Stop lookin, be happy" It's true that happiness comes when you're settled with your lot in life. But you will instinctively rebel if you settle too early, on too little; this site is sort of dedicated to the art of not settling too early.
Alan Watts said: (paraphrased)
Life is not a journey pilgrimage with an important goal at the end, it is a musical thing and you are supposed to laugh and sing and dance along the way.
For the full text, check out this cool youtube animation made by the Southpark folks from his lecture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERbvKrH-GC4 (animation style is Southpark-like, content is Alan Watts)
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Your messages sound really stilted and like you're really nervous. They jump from one random topic to the next, without actually showing anything uniquely you . > But, well, I own a 5 foot long remote controlled floating dolphin. I gave up on being 100% sane long ago. Technically I am sane, but I do enjoy having fun toying around with things. I also drive a bright orange car! What this says: I own toys, you should kn…
So, where's the secret staircase that leads to the lair of angry geese on the river? It sounds like a fun time for me and my wife.
The north bank of the Charles, along the bike path, has all kinds of secret, discoverable places. I actually can't remember the exact location anymore, but I know it's where the path is about 30 feet above the bank.