Some of the guys I know in there are in for decades at least. I can't imagine them having the education for any kind of gainful employment when they get out.
What is it like to be a geek in a prison?
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#22"I learned that you should go straight to the person you're upset with rather than go to authorities." This is bullshit and dumb advice. If someone steals my bike and I find out who it is, I'm not going to go to his apartment and beat him to death in the middle of the day (smart money on confronting a scumbag not leading to a productive conversation). Fuck that. The reason we have "authorities" is because we have peo…
That aside I think your advice is cowardly and people should learn to solve their own problems. Sometimes that includes learning to communicate with others.
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#23"I learned that you should go straight to the person you're upset with rather than go to authorities." This is bullshit and dumb advice. If someone steals my bike and I find out who it is, I'm not going to go to his apartment and beat him to death in the middle of the day (smart money on confronting a scumbag not leading to a productive conversation). Fuck that. The reason we have "authorities" is because we have peo…
Sure that's the right choice when confronting a possibly desperate criminal, but realize this: you are hiding behind a system. If you are a white male then this is often the default choice because most systems in this country were designed by us for us. If you grew up as a black male in America then you will probably think twice about involving the authorities because past experience shows a lower base probability of…
Also, dependence upon authorities is tantamount to learned helplessness. Handle most of your own shit, because creating work for other people won't win you any friends... It also would look weak. And if there's one constant of human nature , it's that weakness invites aggression. Further, I'd hazard a guess that behind bars, friends are the most important currency, whether they are guards or inmates... You want enough so you don't get fucked with.
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#24I have a far off request. I remember reading a good long read quite some time ago. It was of a hacker that was sent to prison, I think federal prison. He goes into a lot of detail about how life is inside there and how you have to behave, I remember him advising to fight for your stuff even though you're going to lose since if not you'll become "their bitches" or something of the sort. If I remember correctly (might…
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#25"I learned that you should go straight to the person you're upset with rather than go to authorities." This is bullshit and dumb advice. If someone steals my bike and I find out who it is, I'm not going to go to his apartment and beat him to death in the middle of the day (smart money on confronting a scumbag not leading to a productive conversation). Fuck that. The reason we have "authorities" is because we have peo…
We have authorities to stop psychos who think the only way to solve that issue themselves is to beat the thief to death. That aside I think your advice is cowardly and people should learn to solve their own problems. Sometimes that includes learning to communicate with others.
It's not cowardly to not respond to disrespect with formal means.
Re: What is it like to be a geek in a prison?
#26"I learned that you should go straight to the person you're upset with rather than go to authorities." This is bullshit and dumb advice. If someone steals my bike and I find out who it is, I'm not going to go to his apartment and beat him to death in the middle of the day (smart money on confronting a scumbag not leading to a productive conversation). Fuck that. The reason we have "authorities" is because we have peo…
I think you're being pedantic. To the surprise of absolutely no-one, this axiom (like all axioms) can't be applied universally. This advice was doled out in the context of earning "respect". As such, it's more applicable when working within a persistent social construct (schoolyard, office environment, family, etc) - and not random strangers who you will likely never meet again (bike thieves, DMV clerks, magazine sub…
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#27"I learned that you should go straight to the person you're upset with rather than go to authorities." This is bullshit and dumb advice. If someone steals my bike and I find out who it is, I'm not going to go to his apartment and beat him to death in the middle of the day (smart money on confronting a scumbag not leading to a productive conversation). Fuck that. The reason we have "authorities" is because we have peo…
try and go to the guardian when you're in prison because a guy insulted you and you'll probably be seen as a snitch for the length of your sentence. Trust me, I've seen the whole Oz series ( http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0118421/ )
Re: What is it like to be a geek in a prison?
#28Earlier quoted context omitted.
Sure that's the right choice when confronting a possibly desperate criminal, but realize this: you are hiding behind a system. If you are a white male then this is often the default choice because most systems in this country were designed by us for us. If you grew up as a black male in America then you will probably think twice about involving the authorities because past experience shows a lower base probability of…
Amen. Reality isn't as meritocratic or simplistic as the parent commenter believes. Authorities don't always care and sometimes enjoy tormenting people. Also, dependence upon authorities is tantamount to learned helplessness. Handle most of your own shit, because creating work for other people won't win you any friends... It also would look weak. And if there's one constant of human nature , it's that weakness invite…
It's not about dependence on authorities, it's knowing that if you're in a situation in which your options are "go to the police" or "take care of this myself," you're not really dealing with even minded people.
If you're in jail, sure, by all means, go try to resolve a personal issue yourself. But that's not the sort of things you could even go to authorities for.
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#29"I learned that you should go straight to the person you're upset with rather than go to authorities." This is bullshit and dumb advice. If someone steals my bike and I find out who it is, I'm not going to go to his apartment and beat him to death in the middle of the day (smart money on confronting a scumbag not leading to a productive conversation). Fuck that. The reason we have "authorities" is because we have peo…
You should try to broaden your arsenal of social interactions. Sure, tattling and beating people to death have their place, but there are one or two other methods for resolving conflicts as well.
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#30"I learned that you should go straight to the person you're upset with rather than go to authorities." This is bullshit and dumb advice. If someone steals my bike and I find out who it is, I'm not going to go to his apartment and beat him to death in the middle of the day (smart money on confronting a scumbag not leading to a productive conversation). Fuck that. The reason we have "authorities" is because we have peo…
That's a bit of an extreme example. Think about this in the context of an office environment. Often times it is better to work out issues with someone directly. It commands a lot more respect and often times helps to cut through red tape. A lot of the time if you go to your boss over a problem with someone that you work with, they view you as a "tattle-tale" or somebody that is too weak to stand up for yourself.
Also, be careful with taking your own advice on this one. If you keep working with someone personally instead of formally, you're giving him/her the chance to manipulate a situation against you.