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Re: See Your Folks

#101

Post by bitwize »

aswath87 wrote: post #62
spodek wrote: post #46

Effective site, but I hope the people who found it depressing reconsider their response. The site didn't tell you anything you didn't already know, it only clarified it. Instead of denying information to keep yourself happy, why not use the information? My 69-year-old mother remarked earlier this year that if she didn't get around to some of her life goals soon she wouldn't be able to. Did she say that out of depress…

"Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart." - Steve Jobs I built this to remind myself - http://liveconsciously.me/

There's every reason not to follow your heart, if your heart doesn't know how to make money.

You've gotta have something for retirement...

Re: See Your Folks

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Post by nocman »

One thing this does not take into account -- seeing your parents in person is not the only interaction that is meaningful. Yes, I agree that seeing them in person is a good thing to do, but for some people that is difficult to do, and very often it is not because of a lack of dilligence on the child's part.

So send your folks a long letter or email. Call them on the phone. There is no need to feel guilty because you can only see them X times a year -- for some that is just a fact of life. Phone calls, emails, letters all have meaning. Letters and emails can be read multiple times (and often are). You want to really show your parents you care? Write one or both of them a poem or a song. If you have no skill in that area, write a long heartfelt letter. I wrote one of those letters to my dad years ago and he kept it forever.

It is good to remember that life is short and to use your time wisely. Remember the things that are important. But personal visits aren't the only way to do something about it.

Re: See Your Folks

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Post by Nux »

This web site makes me sad.

A much lesser problem, it doesn't work in Opera Mini, would be nice if it did, many of my friends are using it.

Re: See Your Folks

#106

Post by krmmalik »

Please understand I don't mean to discredit your site in any way and what I'm about to say below is no reflection in your commitment.

But this is a good opportunity for me to make an important point regards a discussion that took place here a few days ago.

You see - This website serves no purpose in the East or Eastern ethnic minorities.

It's not part of our culture to lose contact with our parents. I saw my parents on the weekend, my wife saw hers and we both spoke to our parents today on the phone. We live 3hrs away.

I'm 33 yrs old. I've never not spoken to my parents for more than 14 days ever in my life.

Why am I telling you this?

Because in the last discussion that took place - the rant about culture in India, many commented that people need to get more mature but what they dont realise that its culture holding them back

Your website proves my point.

Context: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6546587

Re: See Your Folks

#107

Post by ratscabies »

darrennix wrote: post #88
usaphp wrote: post #83

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I don't want to nitpick but 100 kilometers a day for a 70 year old, sounds pretty impossible...thats about 7 hours of non stop riding every day at a modest speed, even a fit college student won't be able to bike for 7 hours straight. Edit: I do agree that a fit student can do a 7 hour bike tour, but i still staand by my opinion that for 70 year old it seems to be impossible.

A 60 mile ride on flat roads at a leisurely pace of 12mph would take about 5 hours. College cyclists ride at 20-25 mph. Pros ride at 30+. On my weekend rides were I average 19mph on the flats I regularly get passed by some very old riders. The point is: 100km a day is a difficult but achievable goal for a reasonably fit 70 year old.

I am 52, and I do 27 miles each Saturday on a longboard. It takes around 2:20 to do it. When I am 70 I may not be on the longboard for those distances, but no problem on abike i'd bet.

Re: See Your Folks

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Post by stevoski »

usaphp wrote: post #83
spodek wrote: post #46

Effective site, but I hope the people who found it depressing reconsider their response. The site didn't tell you anything you didn't already know, it only clarified it. Instead of denying information to keep yourself happy, why not use the information? My 69-year-old mother remarked earlier this year that if she didn't get around to some of her life goals soon she wouldn't be able to. Did she say that out of depress…

I don't want to nitpick but 100 kilometers a day for a 70 year old, sounds pretty impossible...thats about 7 hours of non stop riding every day at a modest speed, even a fit college student won't be able to bike for 7 hours straight. Edit: I do agree that a fit student can do a 7 hour bike tour, but i still staand by my opinion that for 70 year old it seems to be impossible.

Get involved in cycling communities and you realise that this, while not particularly easy, is not particularly hard either. Especially for spryer-than-average 70-year-old.

An average unfit person of almost any age, can, within a couple of weeks of regular riding, achieve 100 km in a day.

Re: See Your Folks

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Post by fps »

usaphp wrote: post #83
spodek wrote: post #46

Effective site, but I hope the people who found it depressing reconsider their response. The site didn't tell you anything you didn't already know, it only clarified it. Instead of denying information to keep yourself happy, why not use the information? My 69-year-old mother remarked earlier this year that if she didn't get around to some of her life goals soon she wouldn't be able to. Did she say that out of depress…

I don't want to nitpick but 100 kilometers a day for a 70 year old, sounds pretty impossible...thats about 7 hours of non stop riding every day at a modest speed, even a fit college student won't be able to bike for 7 hours straight. Edit: I do agree that a fit student can do a 7 hour bike tour, but i still staand by my opinion that for 70 year old it seems to be impossible.

I (32, not in good shape at all) started biking last year for the first time in years and was able to do 60 miles (100km) my second time out. with hills. It's about 5 hours at a very slow pace, but we did it in 3 1/2. My father (72) rides regularly with a large group of older bikers and does 150km twice a season, but 80-100km every weekend. My mother-in-law (60) recently got back from her second cross-country bike tour where she did 130km 6 days a week for a month.

Re: See Your Folks

#110

Post by scott_karana »

madaxe wrote: post #47

Why is 0 not a valid input? I mean, I know it makes it somewhat pointless to even fill in if one never sees ones parents, but either way, 0 is a valid, if sad, answer.

Looks like they might have changed this. Or at least, it works with no input in either of the fields.
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