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Re: See Your Folks

#71
This is a cool little website. Both my parents are dead, but I appreciate the thought behind it.

It's interesting that it sticks to a mother and father. A number of families are moving into more complex arrangements - 2 fathers, or 2 mothers, or step parents, or single parents, or etc etc. (I'm not complaining, just commenting.) I guess it shows that people know who they consider to be parents.

Re: See Your Folks

#73
Rather pointless in my opinion.

First they make the wrong assumption that the most we see our parents the happier we are.

In any case, I don't think it makes a big difference for people to see their parents 500 or 700 times before they die. Especially if they don't get along with them, they should see each other as little as possible.

My parents died a while ago and while I miss them, I don't regret that i didn't see them enough.

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#75

Damn, my dad had a stroke on Saturday night. Thankfully he got very prompt and first class medical treatment (Thanks NHS. Socialised medicine FTW) so the damage is fortunately very limited. I'm actually on my way to the hospital to see him now. This is a great reminder to pick up the phone and tell your folks or anyone that matters to you that you love them. Everyone reading this should do that now if they can. You n…

So true. My wife's dad passed away when she was in college. No one knows how long their parents will be around.

I'm very lucky, my dad is 83 years old and doing great. The past few times I've gone to visit my parents, I've made a conscious effort to ask them a lot of questions about their life, and it's been incredibly rewarding.

One thing led to another and now helping people record their family stories is what I do for a living (http://www.storyworth.com if you want to check it out).

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#76
post #46

Effective site, but I hope the people who found it depressing reconsider their response. The site didn't tell you anything you didn't already know, it only clarified it. Instead of denying information to keep yourself happy, why not use the information? My 69-year-old mother remarked earlier this year that if she didn't get around to some of her life goals soon she wouldn't be able to. Did she say that out of depress…

This is really a pillar of the stoic philosophy, or at least as far as I interpreted it.

The awareness you speak of is quite freeing and empowering when you take the time to consider it. The appreciation you gain based on a stoic style of living can be quite freeing for people. It isn't just about using the information though as you mention, it is about being aware of it. Whether you act on it or not, you can gain some peace.

This site seems to put forward that idea, that knowing about it will in turn provide you with more appreciation and a better way of coping with the death as well.

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#77
What is "(Holland, Europe)" doing behind "Netherlands"? Which, by the way, is The Netherlands. Why are we the only one with an incorrect postfix? Holland are two provinces where the government reside; it's like putting "Île-de-France" behind "France". Like all Frenchmen outside of that region, I don't identify as a citizen of Holland at all.

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#78
post #56

Earlier quoted context omitted.

No, it means you see your mother x times a year and your father y times a year...

In addition my parents were born in and currently live in different countries.

I do have the same situation since a while (country of living, they didn't change their country of birth ;)). I could understand that not being included, as it is unusual. You cannot cover all with "simple".

The underlying point is that divorce is not unusual, but the norm in some countries.

Re: See Your Folks

#79
post #60
post #56

Earlier quoted context omitted.

No, it means you see your mother x times a year and your father y times a year...

Fortunately, you can average X and Y, or take the more pessimistic answer and use min(X,Y).

Very clever. And empathically bankrupt.

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#80
post #35

This is great, regardless of whether the math is correct. I don’t share much on Facebook, but this, this I shared. It may seem sappy to some, but I find it to be a community service. My situation: I’m 33 years old and I live in the same city as my parents do. My mom is 65 years old, my dad is 69 years old. I visit my parents about once a week. According to this test, I can expect to see my parents another 700 times b…

I'm 32 and live in a different province from my family and I only see them for a week or so a year (this past year I got to see them three times :). Seeing 28.5 show up on there was painful. I hope we both get to surpass these numbers :)

I'm in the same situation, I live in San Francisco and my parents are in France. I see my parents a couple of times a year.

You might be interested in trying my service http://www.StoryWorth.com. It helps people record their family stories, and we often end up talking about my parents' stories during our weekly phone calls.

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