Earlier quoted context omitted.
so divorce means you no longer have a mom / dad ?
No, it means you see your mother x times a year and your father y times a year...
In addition my parents were born in and currently live in different countries.
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#62Effective site, but I hope the people who found it depressing reconsider their response. The site didn't tell you anything you didn't already know, it only clarified it. Instead of denying information to keep yourself happy, why not use the information? My 69-year-old mother remarked earlier this year that if she didn't get around to some of her life goals soon she wouldn't be able to. Did she say that out of depress…
"Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart." - Steve Jobs
I built this to remind myself - http://liveconsciously.me/
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#63That was about the exact opposite of an enjoyable experience.
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#65My parents are divorced. I cannot fill this form properly.
My father is deceased. I also cannot fill in this form properly.
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#66This is terrible... it makes it horrible for people in difficult situations.
Wait, how does this site "make it horrible"?
The situation may be horrible, in which case this site may be an unwelcome reminder of the horribleness of the situation. But this site doesn't make anything worse or tell you anything you didn't already know.
Some will never see their parents again. For some of us, even when we see our parents they are too far lost in dementia to realize it. Some will lose their parents tragically early. Some will get far more time with their parents than expected. Some will become their parents' or in-laws' primary caretakers and privately sometimes wish in their hearts of hearts they saw their parents less.
None of that changes the message of this site. We have a finite amount of time on this earth. We could do worse than to spend some of it with those we love.
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#67“They didn’t understand me”, “I wish I had done this in the past”, “I wish I had someone to guide me towards my interest”,
“I hope I become successful in the future”, “I hope become a millionaire”
Our ambition, our regrets have made us distant from the now and the present. We are not satisfied with it, how can we? We have our own expectations and dreams to achieve in life. So we run from the present, we live like we have a millennia more. We believe that our parents will always be there when we have time. So we don’t go meet them on holidays, we rarely talk to them over the phone. When we meet them we are obsessed with our future, never paying attention to their stories. Never really looking into their eyes. After all, Facebook and Twitter is way more interesting then old people’s talk.
And one day you will catch the train (success, fame, money or whatever it is) but you realise that there is no one on the other side, that you are all alone. It feels empty, it feels incomplete. That you have an entire life to go through now.
Don’t let that happen, go to their place. Talk to them over the phone (at least once a week). When you meet them, turn off your smartphone. Look at them in the eye and listen to their stories. You will find out that they need you as much as you needed them in the past.
Life is not all about fame and achievements, it’s about the people (Family, friends, etc). And whatever insignificant time we have on this planet, it’s better spent together in the present.
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#68Seems like a wasted opportunity for a Kayak.com affiliate bonus...
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#69Why is it that when it comes to this issue people feel completely comfortable with telling other people how to live their lives? Wanting to spend more time with your parent's isn't a moral absolute. It's a social pressure that has proved hardier than going to church or getting married while you are still fertile.
It's not really telling you what to do, per se.
The point isn't that you must spend time with them, it's that if you want to you should know how much time you have (or don't).
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#70There is a comic I really like from Abstruse Goose about the same topic: 936 Little Blops http://abstrusegoose.com/51