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Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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Does anyone else do this (or something similar)? I'm curious to see how people introduce the Internet to their children in a relatively-responsible way.

My 3 year old daughter has been actively using an iPad in some form or another since around a year old. I don't plan on censoring or controlling her access but would review this based on changing circumstances. Her use is (casually) monitored in case any issues do pop up, though I consider this unlikely for a few years as she's only into Disney-style apps and a handful of toy unboxing subscriptions on YouTube. I've n…

> she's only into Disney-style apps and a handful of toy unboxing subscriptions on YouTube

Has she found the egg videos yet?

Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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post #12

Most sites close accounts if they're for someone under the age of X. (18, 13?) So, these accounts are really the parents accounts, just in the name of the daughter, right? > The process started in earnest as we were selecting her name. We’d narrowed the list down to a few alternatives and ran each (and their variants) through domain and keyword searches to see what was available. Next, we crawled through Google to se…

Don't you think changing your surname to "Doe" is kinda overkill?

Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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post #2

Does anyone else do this (or something similar)? I'm curious to see how people introduce the Internet to their children in a relatively-responsible way.

I'd suggest delegated Gmail accounts: http://gmailblog.blogspot.com/2010/12/email-delegation-grant... used as contact emails for social networks.

I set up a delegated Gmail account for my son so that I can monitor and rescue the account. He uses Steam for online gaming (mostly gmod), and Facebook.

My daughter's iPhone is set up with my Apple ID, but her Gmail address is used for iMessage, Facetime, etc. Aside from the ability to use 'Find my iPhone' to locate her if necessary, I can also lock the iPhone remotely when I get a RenWeb alert that she didn't turn in her homework!

Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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post #11

I'm a new parent and my wife and I are not taking any measures to minimize our kid's Facebook exposure. As a general rule, it's pretty safe to "do what everybody else is doing." If Facebook albums parents made for kids when they were little come back to haunt this coming generation as a group, the ills will be remedied either by making or using certain sorts of analysis illegal (the college application hypothetical)…

As a general rule, it's pretty safe to do "what everybody else is doing." I noticed this rule after the housing crash. If one person was underwater on their mortgage, no one would blink. But, when hundreds of thousands of people become underwater, Congress started to get involved to (attempt to) provide relief. It seems impossible to limit someone's exposure on Facebook, especially when any 3rd party will happily pos…

>I noticed this rule after the housing crash. If one person was underwater on their mortgage, no one would blink. But, when hundreds of thousands of people become underwater, Congress started to get involved to (attempt to) provide relief.

Considering that hundrends of thousadns still lost their houses, it's not much of a comfort -- or good advice in general.

"Do what everybody else is doing" will at best lead to mediocre results (by definition).

Consider the effect of such an advice to someone in a slum neighborhood where "everybody" is dealing drugs, to get the worst case scenario.

Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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post #14

The author is wrong because she assumes social customs are immutable. They aren't. In 2028 there will be nothing embarrassing about appearing in thousands of online photos dating back to your birth. Because almost everyone will be in the same boat. In fact, it may be considered weird and suspicious if there's not much online content about you.

That's already a fact for teens.

Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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This seems incredibly odd to me.

On one hand, they indicate strongly valued privacy with the "no posts about the child" rule; seemingly recognizing the hidden costs of permissive 'oversharing'.

But, on the other hand, they place a very high importance on reserving (vanity) domain and user names, securing the right for her to sharecrop out her personal information in as-accurate-a-means as possible; reinforcing the value and importance of being able to overshare?

e.g. Reserving JaneAnnSmith.com at birth to ... what? Spare her the inconvenience/indirection of someone else buying that domain in the intervening years and her having to instead register jasmith.com or (heaven forbid) jane-ann-smith.com ?

Securing facebook.com/janeannsmith to spare her facebook.com/123456789 or something?

And does anyone even think for a moment that it's likely for today's real-name-based social networks will be relevant, years from now?

Reserving a Facebook name today is akin to having reserved a geocities name, at birth, for a child who will graduate high school next year -- and that's for the earliest of early adopters. Were the name registered for a child born around geocities peak, that child may still be in junior high.

The ephemeral nature of these networks (over such time frames) only further underscores the apparent importance the parents are placing on precisely identifying her online history. (getting that facebook username just in case it's still relevant...)

It seems rather than teaching their child to value privacy, to understand the power/benefit dynamic of these networks, to hopefully avoid her growing up forever linked to juvenile mis-steps, they're instead raising her to be a narcissist.

That is: Not to value her privacy and personal identity in and of themselves, but to value privacy and personal identity as a tool to 'spin' her public identity in the most-favorable fashion.

Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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post #14

The author is wrong because she assumes social customs are immutable. They aren't. In 2028 there will be nothing embarrassing about appearing in thousands of online photos dating back to your birth. Because almost everyone will be in the same boat. In fact, it may be considered weird and suspicious if there's not much online content about you.

>In 2028 there will be nothing embarrassing about appearing in thousands of online photos dating back to your birth. Because almost everyone will be in the same boat.

Or you know, those that aren't will have it as an advantage.

Like how everybody is nearly overweight, but still those are aren't have a leg up.

Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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post #2

Does anyone else do this (or something similar)? I'm curious to see how people introduce the Internet to their children in a relatively-responsible way.

I gave my child a macbook without parental control in age of 3.

Well, tons of parents give their children unsupervised television watching for hours every day.

Shutting kids up with technology and letting it take care of their upbringing is nothing new.

Re: We Post Nothing About Our Daughter Online

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post #24

Earlier quoted context omitted.

As a general rule, it's pretty safe to do "what everybody else is doing." I noticed this rule after the housing crash. If one person was underwater on their mortgage, no one would blink. But, when hundreds of thousands of people become underwater, Congress started to get involved to (attempt to) provide relief. It seems impossible to limit someone's exposure on Facebook, especially when any 3rd party will happily pos…

> I noticed this rule after the housing crash. If one person was underwater on their mortgage, no one would blink. But, when hundreds of thousands of people become underwater, Congress started to get involved to (attempt to) provide relief. Considering that hundrends of thousadns still lost their houses, it's not much of a comfort -- or good advice in general. "Do what everybody else is doing" will at best lead to me…

Considering that hundreds of thousands still lost their houses

Hundreds of thousands also had portions of their mortgages forgiven. One can also not deny that the Fed is keeping interest rates low, in part, because many home owners have HELOCs or other adjustable rate loans.

I agree with you that "doing what everybody else is doing" is not a free pass to be reckless and is not something to aspire to do.

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