You know, I don't see the career ascent about forgetting my own life. I see it as a way I can do good for this world. If I have people under my span of control, I can impart what I believe to be good in this world as a part of my leadership and management style. I also want to be a motivational speaker when I 'grow up'. I came from humble beginnings. Some people's talks have really changed my life. In order to give t…
>>I don't see the career ascent about forgetting my own life. I see it as a way I can do good for this world. If I have people under my span of control, I can impart what I believe to be good in this world as a part of my leadership and management style. I'm saving this for later, because I love it. Thank you.
“People simply empty out”
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#322Can I just say that I love Charles Bukowski? If you've never read him go buy his books now. There's so much humanity in there. Some will think he's a downer or depressing, but I think he's genius. His life reminds me of this quote by Hokusai: When I was 50 I had published a universe of designs. But all I have done before the the age of 70 is not worth bothering with. At 75 I'll have learned something of the pattern o…
I can't stomach the guy. He was an abusive drunk who thought it was funny to kick women. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8KJiay6EI0
You do realize that this ignorant, reactionary stance invalidates the work of practically everyone ever, yes?
EDIT: If you're going to downvote someone's comment please have the guts to make an argument.
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I can't stomach the guy. He was an abusive drunk who thought it was funny to kick women. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8KJiay6EI0
His quality as a human being has no impact on his quality as a writer. The guy was a genius and an all out asshole
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I can't stomach the guy. He was an abusive drunk who thought it was funny to kick women. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8KJiay6EI0
And then somebody reduces the man to this awful youtube clip where he's drunk and fighting with his fiancé, where he kicks her meanly from across the couch, several times. And I have to remember: that's just this thread, this thread will pass. It's Friday. I'm in a decent mood. Let's find something to eat, start thinking about what I will work on today.
But this crap still bothers me. It drags an otherwise nice discussion about good art into the gutter of reactionary judgements. A lot of really good artists had/have problems, but that doesn't discount their work.
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You don't think that screwing around and then rubbing it in your partner's face is abuse?
No, it's not. A partner's monogamy is a gift, not an entitlement.
Couples should figure out where they stand on that, before they resort to kicking.
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#327Interesting fact: 100usd in 1969 bought you nearly 3 ounces of gold. Price of gold today is 1350usd. Today's value of 100usd in 1969 would be about $4k. Not bad at all.
100 USD from 1969 would be equivalent to 636 USD today. So it would have been a great buy, but you have to take inflation into account. Also, 100 USD from 1969 invested in the stock market (S&P 500) in 1969 would have given you 5403 USD from 2013 today, so buying those ounces wouldn't even have been the best investment. Almost any solid investment over 50 years would give absurd returns. http://www.usinflationcalcula…
If you are interested in the real inflation rate, I'd advise to use formula that was last used by the US Government in 1980s in Reagan years. By that formula the current inflation is at 10%. In 1990s the Government added a lot of absurdities to the formula confusing technological progress with inflation hence the official inflation is non-existent while the average healthcare premium is up from 5 to 20% every year not to even mention about the cost of necessities like gas, food, energy, all the result of doubling monetary base by the FED in 2008-2012 to rescue zombie banks.
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You're just playing with words though. People choose to use debt, I've got debt, on the car we just bought, that's it. I HAD debt, but the student loans are now paid and the house was sold. Am I lucky to make a good salary that allows me to pay these things down? Absolutely. However, I'm also responsible for the choices I make. Many people make more than I do and don't save as much, many More people make less and dri…
I don't think I played with the words. No debt == freedom. And to have no debt isn't easy mostly due to social pressure - keeping up with the Jones. But it wouldn't really hurt to plan in such a way that before one hits 45 they are debt free and own house among other things.
Debt is leverage. Leverage, applied correctly, is an excellent means for accelerating the furtherance of a goal. Is having debt on a house a bad thing? Certainly not in a rising market, or in a market where rents tend to exceed mortgage payments. Additionally, equity gained in that house can be leveraged when times get rough in the future, or a new opportunity arises. Most people do not have the capital power to buy a home outright, even after many years of saving -- if you're spending on rent, you likely cannot save enough for an entire home in one lump sum. Most notably, you'd have to have a very smart growth strategy on that saving to beat both inflation and the rising prices of homes in the area you want to live over the course of the 15-20 years you'd have to employ that strategy. Therefore, for those with the wherewithal to manage their leverage correctly and effectively, a loan makes a lot of sense - they don't have to pay the rents, and they've gambled, successfully or otherwise TBD, against the future price of that home. They can as well make a decision to take gains early, long before ever having had to lay out the entire capital should their local market rise. In the case of 20% down on a $100k house that increases to $200k in value over 3 years with a total of $24k spent in payments over that time = $100k in returns for $44k invested, or a profit of $56k, with no additional rent charges during that time.
In addition, the same can run true for a vehicle. If a person needs a vehicle for transportation, they can apply leverage, especially if they do so wisely, to purchase a vehicle better suited to their needs than their normal cash flow allows. I, for example, could be fine with a 20-year old vehicle that needs regular maintenance. I can do that maintenance myself. Someone else may rightly say a 5-6% interest rate over three years is less costly to them than monthly visits to their mechanic.
So, this "debt is bad," thing is mostly stated by people who get leveraged beyond their means, or don't understand how to successfully apply the right amount of leverage at the right time. No debt can be as bad for one's fortunes as too much debt.
Very few Americans (or otherwise) could consider the idea of owning a house and a car outright at 45 without ever having taken on debt.
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> So you do agree with physical abuse. According to you, if your partner says something that upsets you, its totally OK to hit them. That is domestic abuse 101. That's absurd. Where did I say "if your partner says something that upsets you, it's totally OK to hit them"? I stated that: a) Bukowski's fiance probably hurt Bukowski (by stating that she cheats on him) more than he did by kicking her. b) It didn't seem lik…
But he thought it was acceptable to kick her. That's abusive.
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Question 1: Because people want more than they need. This is practically an axiom. You don't need much more than a pile of sticks to sleep under, food, and water, but I bet even you would agree this is not satisfying. We aren't unique in this regard either. My cat needs air, water, and food. My cat wants attention, affection, and canned wet food. Question 2: I wasn't socially conditioned to want the fan that keeps me…
>>Question 1: Because people want more than they need. This is practically an axiom. Is it? There are several hundred million Buddhists who might disagree with you. >>We aren't unique in this regard either. My cat needs air, water, and food. My cat wants attention, affection, and canned wet food. Your cat wants attention, affection and canned wet food because as a pet it has gotten used to those things. There are a b…