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Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by solistice »

jff wrote: post #57
solistice wrote: post #43

Earlier quoted context omitted.

You totally missed out on toying with the shallow crowd. Shallow people are just that, shallow, so they're rather easy to calculate. Since they usually annoy me to no end, I'll sooner or later resort to the people equivalent of cow tipping. I act perfectly well adjusted, and for a moment, a glint of madness, just enough that they question things. Best case scenario is that they question their facilities of judgement…

Wow, you're the fucking puppet master, I tip my fedora.

Could have gotten a little over the top. I was tired as hell when I wrote that.

Judge it as a mix of petty revenge and mindgames if you want, but it helps me to deal with incredibly superficial people just fine. In fact, after making them question their modus operandi, they tend to become a lot more agreeable. Of course I could go the regular route of either ignoring them, putting up with them or agressively lashing out at them, but at the end, that doesn't improve the situation for anyone. They'll go their merry ways, irritating everyone.

And before that transition happens, they'll strain very hard to put you in a box, and that's kinda cute.

Anyways, you're good at quips, I tip my propeller hat.

Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by frooxie »

MartinCron wrote: post #35
rfnslyr wrote: post #18

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Everyone publishes the awesome shit they do. Nobody publishes constantly things they suck at, things they failed at, things they won't attain.

I find that I'm pretty self-deprecating just about wherever I publish, but I guess that's just showing off how awesome my sense of humor is.

I also post self-deprecating comments, but you're probably a lot better at it than I am.

Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by singingfish »

karpathy wrote: post #13

82 participants. 3 participants did not complete. 1 person excluded as inconsistent > 4SD. Study comes down to: Participants were text-messaged 5 times per day between 10am and midnight over 14-days. """ Each text-message contained a link to an online survey, which asked participants to answer five questions using a slider scale: (1) How do you feel right now? (very positive [0] to very negative [100]; M = 37.47, SD…

You are correct, the conclusions of the study are wrong. One name used to describe this phenomenon is "Demand Characteristics" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demand_characteristics

Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by yareally »

stephengillie wrote: post #8
manishsharan wrote: post #3

I can relate to this study --- even though I am not a young adult like the subjects of this study. I stopped using Facebook a few months ago because I couldn't handle how it made me feel. I am bootstrapping a start-up ,working insane hours and depriving my family of the comforts/luxuries that I could have afforded when I had a corporate job. I am really happy that my friends are spending their summer vacation at reso…

Going on Facebook, I see how everyone's social life is better than mine. Going on Hacker News, I see how everyone's startup is doing better than my failed attempt. Going on Hackaday, I see how everyone's working on cooler projects than mine. The only place I feel good about myself is at work.

There's also the "grass is always greener" complex as well. The perception that what someone else has or does is better than what you do because it's different. It may be true or it could all be in one's mind. To want to always improve is a good thing, but in high doses it can be toxic.

Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by unclebucknasty »

frooxie wrote: post #62
MartinCron wrote: post #35

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I find that I'm pretty self-deprecating just about wherever I publish, but I guess that's just showing off how awesome my sense of humor is.

I also post self-deprecating comments, but you're probably a lot better at it than I am.

Heh. Well done.

Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by unclebucknasty »

manishsharan wrote: post #3

I can relate to this study --- even though I am not a young adult like the subjects of this study. I stopped using Facebook a few months ago because I couldn't handle how it made me feel. I am bootstrapping a start-up ,working insane hours and depriving my family of the comforts/luxuries that I could have afforded when I had a corporate job. I am really happy that my friends are spending their summer vacation at reso…

Would a site that encouraged sharing only the bad stuff that happens make friends/people feel better about themselves?

Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by j45 »

manishsharan wrote: post #3

I can relate to this study --- even though I am not a young adult like the subjects of this study. I stopped using Facebook a few months ago because I couldn't handle how it made me feel. I am bootstrapping a start-up ,working insane hours and depriving my family of the comforts/luxuries that I could have afforded when I had a corporate job. I am really happy that my friends are spending their summer vacation at reso…

Manish, keep at it, leadership is about leading yourself, no one gets that except those who get through it and keep going.

Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by j45 »

While I don't fault Facebook directly with this, when any gathering evolves to enabling gossiping, spying and showing off for those who are most affected by it, I'm not sure if on one hand we move ahead as a society, or if by using up such social attention, perhaps, as a civilization, we use up our energy and attention to care about such things and have the opportunity to spend as much energy on ourselves instead of spending it on others and putting ourselves in front of others for so much validation.

We're all human and need support and love, but we need to be able to give it to ourselves, and maybe a 'social' network will always be superficial to the point that it drives and feeds loneliness.

Re: Facebook use 'makes people feel worse about themselves'

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Post by visakanv »

rfnslyr wrote: post #18
stephengillie wrote: post #8

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Going on Facebook, I see how everyone's social life is better than mine. Going on Hacker News, I see how everyone's startup is doing better than my failed attempt. Going on Hackaday, I see how everyone's working on cooler projects than mine. The only place I feel good about myself is at work.

Everyone publishes the awesome shit they do. Nobody publishes constantly things they suck at, things they failed at, things they won't attain.

I make it a point to blog about my suckage every day, so that if I ever get successful, there's a nice big chunk of evidence of how a person can suck before getting good at something.
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