You're ignoring that we spend a great deal of treasure and effort in minimizing road accidents and "gun deaths", and with quite a bit of success in both as measured in just that, especially when adjusted for population increase. We're spending so much ordinary people can't afford new cars (OK, there are environmental costs as well, and the $1,000? for a 5 mph bumper isn't for safety, really), and the current generation of the young is to an unprecedented degree avoiding them.
Therefore, why is our reaction to Islamic terrorism an out of line overreaction? I mean, any more than our vehicle safety one, or at least as that can be argued as an overreaction?
If, or more likely when, it gets to the point of nukes slagging our cities, I don't think the word "endure" will even vaguely apply. I would also hate to tell my friends who lost friends in 9/11 that that was something simply to be "endured", with obviously lots more to come.
Ask yourself if your desires are realistic. Would the American people allow such to pass? Would not a suppression of the reaction to attacks result in worse reactions when we finally do? It can be argued that our tolerance and "enduring" of al-Qaeda's attacks (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Al-Qaeda#Attacks) that killed over 300 prior to 9/11 allowed the latter to occur, with our resulting "overreaction".