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Stephen Fry reveals he attempted suicide in 2012

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Re: Stephen Fry reveals he attempted suicide in 2012

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The documentary mentioned about his bi-polar is available on Amazon (and without permission on Youtube) for anyone interested, it's a very good insight into bi-polar and depression, worth the 120 minutes: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0808482/ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stephen_Fry:_The_Secret_Life_of... http://www.amazon.co.uk/Stephen-Frys-Secret-Manic-Depressive...

its on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rGDl6-lyfMY

Re: Stephen Fry reveals he attempted suicide in 2012

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Stephen Fry should speak for himself. People can have very good reasons to want to die. Reasons that are so good that, besides outweighing the value that their life has to them, still have enough oomph to carry one over the high doorstep of fear and pain that comes with taking one's own life. Life is not infinitely valuable. Its goods can be outweighed by bads. People who really just want to go should be respected an…

We don't have the full interview here for context, so I don't think either of us should be absolute on this, but I would guess that he's specifically speaking within the bounds of suicide rooted in mental illness. In fact, I would place very good odds that Stephen Fry would highlight the issues inherent in assisted suicide but still support it on the whole.

I was present at the interview, so - as far as my memory allows - I /do/ have the context: he was very much speaking specifically about his own situation. He was responding to the question "What's it like to be Stephen Fry" in a forthright and incredibly moving way. There were audible gasps from the audience at some of what he was saying, but it never came across as self-important, etc. merely a very honest, painful, and genuine recollection of a specific event that occurred and its meaning in the wider context of his life.

Re: Stephen Fry reveals he attempted suicide in 2012

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The documentary mentioned about his bi-polar is available on Amazon (and without permission on Youtube) for anyone interested, it's a very good insight into bi-polar and depression, worth the 120 minutes: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0808482/ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stephen_Fry:_The_Secret_Life_of... http://www.amazon.co.uk/Stephen-Frys-Secret-Manic-Depressive...

When you use words like "bi-polar and depression" it gives the sense that this is a medical disease . And while speaking strictly, it is indeed a medical disease -- I want people to see the raw human factor in this. Depression, for example, in my experience, and from what I've seen -- often has a cause; a rational, explainable cause (that the sufferer often isn't aware of). When you treat someone's depression as a "m…

Even in cases that can/should be solved by addressing a root problem, often you still want to apply drugs so that the patient doesn't, for example, kill himself in a down period between his/her second and third psychotherapy session.

Re: Stephen Fry reveals he attempted suicide in 2012

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And, of course, he's now being hounded by the press. From https://twitter.com/stephenfry/status/342569662661394432:

Grrr: door-stepped by the press this morning. Said all there was to be said in the podcast with [Richard K Herring] - intrusion makes 1 withdraw

to be expected, perhaps, but not really helpful.

Re: Stephen Fry reveals he attempted suicide in 2012

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The documentary mentioned about his bi-polar is available on Amazon (and without permission on Youtube) for anyone interested, it's a very good insight into bi-polar and depression, worth the 120 minutes: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0808482/ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stephen_Fry:_The_Secret_Life_of... http://www.amazon.co.uk/Stephen-Frys-Secret-Manic-Depressive...

When you use words like "bi-polar and depression" it gives the sense that this is a medical disease . And while speaking strictly, it is indeed a medical disease -- I want people to see the raw human factor in this. Depression, for example, in my experience, and from what I've seen -- often has a cause; a rational, explainable cause (that the sufferer often isn't aware of). When you treat someone's depression as a "m…

It IS a disease in the sense that it's an abnormal reaction to something.

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When you use words like "bi-polar and depression" it gives the sense that this is a medical disease . And while speaking strictly, it is indeed a medical disease -- I want people to see the raw human factor in this. Depression, for example, in my experience, and from what I've seen -- often has a cause; a rational, explainable cause (that the sufferer often isn't aware of). When you treat someone's depression as a "m…

Fry has Bipolar Disorder, diagnosed in England. This is a very different illness to depression. And depression has different forms. Yes, talking therapies are powerful. But you seem to be making the mistake that a talking therapy isn't affecting brain chemistry, or that drugs are inherently bad. Comments like yours are very frustrating. Do you talk about people ignoring the real human factor when we put a broken bone…

A bit of background to support this point, bipolar disorder also does not respond to antidepressants, see http://www.jnalaw.com/effectivness%20of%20antidepressants%20...

It is effectively treatable for most sufferers, of which a combination lithium-lamotrigine therapy is currently considered the treatment of choice. See http://archpsyc.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=20732...

Talking therapies do not stop these kinds of mood swings, but they may be able to help people cope with the effects of mood swings. As importantly, they can help people follow their prescription, failure to do so being the #1 reason for these pharamceutical treatments to fail.

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Your comment is far more nuanced. You're reading the science. While I gently disagree with you I understand what you're saying, and I could fairly easily be persuaded that you're right. The comment I replied to had some worrying flags. It made blanket statements about meds; it suggested that depression has a "root cause". I took that to be a reference to classical psychotherapy -- some event happened a long time in t…

It's great when someone replies as thoughtfully as this, and I love your phrase "gently disagree". Would that more disagreements were of this kind. > Well, for something like bipolar disorder this feels like it's true. I agree. The open question is on what level these things are best to be understood. In some sense everything about us is biology, just as in some sense everything is physics. But we don't think of, say…

One of the problems with describing an illness as psychological is that people think we are dismissing their illness, that we are saying the illness is not real. They think we are either saying that it's all in their heads, or that it's not serious, or that it's just a matter of them needing to "pull their socks up".

I think that might be why people cling to a biological model for mental health problems.

Obviously, we're not saying any of that. I say that there are powerful talking therapies; that these are evidence based and effective for many people; that medication may help although it's probably over-prescribed and it can have unpleasant side-effects; and that some people won't respond to any of that and may need electro-convulsive therapy or other severe interventions.

I agree that people tend to overstate the biological model, and that is a problem. It's a problem because, as you say, we don't know if it's true, and it's a problem because it steers people away from talking therapies.

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If I was one of your friends, would you have liked me to have just treated you as I normally do? If I had someone close who was dying, when I'm seeing them I think I'd just interact with them as I normally do (though accepting and recognising they are, in fact, dying), and not let the fact that they were dying to get in the way of our relationship. I rationalize this by thinking people don't want to feel being pitied…

For me this depends very much on who it is that's trying to help. If they've not experienced something similar to the mental health problems I'm suffering from it's usually best if they treat me as normal. The effort required to try and explain aspects of what I'm going through, usually with little success, is often far more detrimental than any benefit they could hope to provide. Being distracted from the problems,…

> The effort required to try and explain aspects of what I'm going through, usually with little success, is often far more detrimental than any benefit they could hope to provide. Being distracted from the problems, even if only for a short while, can be blissful and hugely appreciated.

> On the other hand, I'm usually happy to be treated differently by people that have had similar experiences to me. I can often communicate to them in a sentence things which would take hours of conversation with somebody who'd not been there before.

I very much agree with both parts of what you've said here. I'm curious if & how you tend to balance between the two?

Generally when I'm having a bad time just having some casual distraction works fine, especially from someone who doesn't know what's wrong.

When I'm stuck in a rut, just having a few friends who can stop me bullshitting and keep me talking works wonders.

Re: Stephen Fry reveals he attempted suicide in 2012

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We don't have the full interview here for context, so I don't think either of us should be absolute on this, but I would guess that he's specifically speaking within the bounds of suicide rooted in mental illness. In fact, I would place very good odds that Stephen Fry would highlight the issues inherent in assisted suicide but still support it on the whole.

Full interview will appear here in a few days - http://www.comedy.co.uk/podcasts/richard_herring_lst_podcast...

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