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A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

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Re: A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

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Post by nostromo »

auctiontheory wrote: post #10
MarkMc wrote: post #4

Paul Tough's book, "How Children Succeed" [1] has a great section on how mothering style has a large effect on offspring throughout their lives: "Parents and other caregivers who are able to form close, nurturing relationships with their children can foster resilience in them that protects them from many of the worst effects of a harsh early environment. This message can sound a bit warm and fuzzy, but it is rooted i…

The research on mothering style may be highly predictive, but unless I'm missing something, it isn't actionable or "useful."

It's useful to parents.

Re: A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

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Post by JDDunn9 »

nostromo wrote: post #11
auctiontheory wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The research on mothering style may be highly predictive, but unless I'm missing something, it isn't actionable or "useful."

It's useful to parents.

Because bad parents will become more nurturing after reading an article?

Re: A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

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Post by JDDunn9 »

These are the kind of studies that make me think social-psychology is just a psuedo-science. If you want to understand human-nature, read Shakespeare over Freud. If you want to influence people, read Dale Carnegie over B.F. Skinner.

I'll gladly eat crow if this study results in a 6% increase in loving relationships or a 5% decrease in alcoholism...

Re: A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

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Post by singular »

Ack. Reliable or not, I'm sure it was meant as a feel-good piece, but for people like me the quote:-

"Vaillant’s key takeaway, in his own words: “The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points … to a straightforward five-word conclusion: ‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’"

Is actually very depressing. I am 5'5" so have this (if you've not encountered it you are unlikely to be aware) INSANE disadvantage when it comes to dating - women can't stand short men. Seems almost certain to be a genetic thing.

Basically, I've given up. There are major issues in the family too, so I am half-estranged from many close members of the family.

So yeah, hopefully it's just false feel-good fluff.

Re: A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

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Post by Falling3 »

singular wrote: post #15

Ack. Reliable or not, I'm sure it was meant as a feel-good piece, but for people like me the quote:- "Vaillant’s key takeaway, in his own words: “The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points … to a straightforward five-word conclusion: ‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’" Is actually very depressing. I am 5'5" so have this (if you've not encountered it you are unlikely to be aware)…

To be fair, there is really no mention of romantic relationships. And in my experience, short stature is not nearly enough to count you out.

Re: A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

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Post by caublestone »

singular wrote: post #15

Ack. Reliable or not, I'm sure it was meant as a feel-good piece, but for people like me the quote:- "Vaillant’s key takeaway, in his own words: “The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points … to a straightforward five-word conclusion: ‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’" Is actually very depressing. I am 5'5" so have this (if you've not encountered it you are unlikely to be aware)…

I just had a couple stay at my place from Airbnb. They were both under 5'5. I don't have anything beyond this anecdote, but this alone must prove that someone is out there!

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Post by hackerpolicy »

MarkMc wrote: post #4

Paul Tough's book, "How Children Succeed" [1] has a great section on how mothering style has a large effect on offspring throughout their lives: "Parents and other caregivers who are able to form close, nurturing relationships with their children can foster resilience in them that protects them from many of the worst effects of a harsh early environment. This message can sound a bit warm and fuzzy, but it is rooted i…

What can the child do once he starts to ask himself what the hell is wrong with him, and little by little, starts to associate some wrongs with his childhood? Is it possible to revert bad parenting?

Re: A 75-Year Harvard Study Finds What It Takes To Live A Happy Life

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Post by ImprovedSilence »

Falling3 wrote: post #16
singular wrote: post #15

Ack. Reliable or not, I'm sure it was meant as a feel-good piece, but for people like me the quote:- "Vaillant’s key takeaway, in his own words: “The seventy-five years and twenty million dollars expended on the Grant Study points … to a straightforward five-word conclusion: ‘Happiness is love. Full stop.’" Is actually very depressing. I am 5'5" so have this (if you've not encountered it you are unlikely to be aware)…

To be fair, there is really no mention of romantic relationships. And in my experience, short stature is not nearly enough to count you out.

Agreed.. I'd say just try to be genuinely interested in and caring for other people, your confidence will grow, you'll have brighter days, and it'll come. Attitude is everything. Just be a all around good guy, and doors will open (romantic, and otherwise). Also ya might not get a 9 or 10, but there are plenty of girls out there that don't mind. Heck, I've dated girls with 2" on me.
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