Ask HN: I'm lost. Please help
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Re: Ask HN: I'm lost. Please help
#2> I think my co-founders are idiots, that they fouled up their side of the deal, but I feel as though I've invested too much time and energy to bail now.
Well I think you found your problem right there. Whether or not, they're actual idiots, this is a problem you need to address. EIther get out of it or you need to find a way to respect them.
If you can't respect your co-founders, you're gonna have trouble working with them.
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#3> I think my co-founders are idiots, that they fouled up their side of the deal, but I feel as though I've invested too much time and energy to bail now. Well I think you found your problem right there. Whether or not, they're actual idiots, this is a problem you need to address. EIther get out of it or you need to find a way to respect them. If you can't respect your co-founders, you're gonna have trouble working wi…
I came here to post this. Ultimately he needs to work out whether or not he can talk to his co-founders or not about this. If he can't it'll tear the relationship apart and it doesn't matter whether or not the company's making or losing money, without that respect he'll have nothing but pain, tears and resentment.
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#4> I feel as though I've invested too much time and energy to bail now.
You're talking about sunk costs. There's nothing you can do about that now. Focus on the future. Think about your future time and energy.
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#5Is this anonymous copy-and-paste medium how people start to deal with their problems now? What happened to just talking to people or making tough decisions? I've seen more of these posts in the last year than I have in my entire time on HN.
I'm sorry you are having a tough time but you need to either 1) have a hard talk with your co-founders about your business model. present facts. make your case. they will listen.
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2) if they dont, walk away and start something new. you mention you are a few years out of college. you could also go take all the technical experience you have gained over the last year and get another job. Make a decision on your own.
But really, the notion that a bunch of internet strangers will be able to give you some miracle advice is absurd.
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#7Is this anonymous copy-and-paste medium how people start to deal with their problems now? What happened to just talking to people or making tough decisions? I've seen more of these posts in the last year than I have in my entire time on HN. I'm sorry you are having a tough time but you need to either 1) have a hard talk with your co-founders about your business model. present facts. make your case. they will listen.…
I don't think it is entire absurd that internet strangers can give good advice. That said, it is entirely impossible when given no actual information or goals, just a scrawling whine.
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#8Is this anonymous copy-and-paste medium how people start to deal with their problems now? What happened to just talking to people or making tough decisions? I've seen more of these posts in the last year than I have in my entire time on HN. I'm sorry you are having a tough time but you need to either 1) have a hard talk with your co-founders about your business model. present facts. make your case. they will listen.…
I would agree, talking with the co-founders is the best route to go. Come up with good examples and/or comparisons for why you think the business model won't be a success but also propose a solution to what route you think the business should go.
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#9Stop wringing your hands over this and leave this venture. Don't worry about hurt feelings. Move on with your life. Get a job that brings in some income. Do it for the sake of your sanity and your relationships with loved ones.
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#10I know how you feel. Been there, done that. Let me say that its not your fault. You went in with the best interest in succeeding, but things went south. Your focus now should be on you. Not the business, but you. You don't owe them anything. Its time you focused on what is best for you. Its obvious you want to quit. Do so. Whatever happens, cannot be worse than what you are going through right now. Don't trap yourself into thinking about what if the company succeeds after you leave. Its not worth it. You can't continue living like this, in hopes of a better future. Truth is, the company has a slim chance of succeeding. And without you, it has less of a chance. So quit. Move on. Get your health back in order, and get a well paying job as a programmer. (look for the hiring thread on HN, or at indeed.com). Remember, money is nothing without health. You must be mentally healthy in order to be able to enjoy it. If anything, just shoot me an email. I will gladly listen to you. Best wishes.