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Then why did Charlie Sheen keep buying hookers from Heidi Fleiss? He wasn't just rich, he was famous too.
The classic answer (I don't know if Charlie actually said this, or some other wit came up with it): "I don't pay them to have sex with me, I pay them to leave afterward."
All you really need to get laid is a willingness to eat humble pie while you climb the social learning curve. It's simple: smile, make eye contact, show interest, ask questions. You will probably feel like an idiot. Repeat until confidence outweighs fear. If you're smart, use your brain for wit, not for showing off.
I haven't had a chance to test this, since I'm still ignoring the first 4 steps. But I have on occasion accidentally made certain friends develop a crush on me by offhandedly calling them pretty. So it seems to work fairly well.
Woman did not evolve to find smart guys or "nice" guys attractive. Woman are programmed to find the leader of the pack attractive, even if said leader is an a hole. Fortunately, most well raised woman were taught with their rational minds to be wary of the jerk and to go for the gentleman. So rationally they want the nice guy, but the animal mind wants the leader of the pack. This creates conflict. If you've ever bee…
A large proportion of American women have been raised with an unspoken and often subliminal belief that sex is filthy, painful and degrading. This association is formed at a young age and most women are not aware that they have it, but it leads them to become attracted to men who are boorish, stupid, and threatening, rather than the intelligent and decent guys. Often, they are actually completely incapable of being sexually attracted to men who don't threaten and degrade them on, at the least, a subconscious level. This is what's at hand in the case of "you're a nice guy, but I'm sorry, I'm just attracted to you. I really wish I was, but I'm not".
This doesn't describe the majority of women or relationships, but it does describe nearly all of the sexually "loud" women. It seems paradoxical, but promiscuous women almost always have this subconscious distaste for sex, while relatively chaste women often have only a trace of it.
Being a smart woman gives you totally different dating prospects than being a smart guy (and not just the obvious). Seriously.
It also gives you reasons to turn off the opposite sex that don't seem to be mentioned in the article - for example a lot of women play it dumb for fear of intimidating the guy they're flirting with. I've even caught myself doing it, which is saying a lot - I wear my IQ and education like a suit of armour most of the time.
Being smart got me a well paying job. For about 3 hours of work I can make it happen + tips. But seriously, I'm not willing to "get some" because it requires me to do things I don't want or willing to. It's sort of like PG's essay on popularity.
> But seriously, I'm not willing to "get some" because it requires me to do things I don't want or willing to. What are the things that you don't want to do or are unwilling to do that you think would get you laid?
Here's the thing: your romantic success has nothing to do with your mental jewelry and everything to do with how you make the other person feel. - this thing was painted on every wall from the beginning of the time.
The problem is much more difficult and this approach is suitable perhaps only for the Cosmopolitan magazine. The Freud's lectures of psyhoanalysis can be useful as an bird-eye overview of the problem.
The main idea is about altering a personal history to get rid of a fixations, regressions, and other things which were accumulated from the past and especially childhood, developing new habits, changing yourself.
And there is a top-secret-great-magic-word: practice.
If one in in his/her thirties and still looking at this kind of books or texts that simply indicates the very serious problem which requires an intensive therapy. Time waits for no one
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That's a loser's game. Sure, a ton of money will get you laid... with precisely the kind of women one should avoid in the first place. Money does not increase one's attractiveness per se , it only attracts scavengers commonly known as gold-diggers. Better use the money to improve oneself...
This is why start-ups are so exceptionally cool. Get your SO when you're poor, so you know they love you for you. Then hit it big and be rich without a gold digger. (Details left blank as an excercise for the reader, BTW. ;-))
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> But seriously, I'm not willing to "get some" because it requires me to do things I don't want or willing to. What are the things that you don't want to do or are unwilling to do that you think would get you laid?
I kinda feel that way too. From reading all the advice, I figure I'd have to have a wholly different personality when around girls and do all this work being this fake cocky jerk.
(1) Be interesting. (2) Be interested. (3) Be clean.
They don't guarantee success with every woman in every situation, but if she's available, they give you a decent shot, and not just at getting laid.
Yes, some other things work in some situations.
Being smart can get you laid - you just have to find women who find smart guys attractive (such as the lady who was my boss at my first programming job). Such women do exist, though they're not all that common.