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Re: Ask HN: How do hackers make friends?

#32
I never interacted much with others in CS courses until my last year. I took Japanese, though... you are forced to talk to others in language courses, and have plenty of opportunities for fun (mistranslations, lots of confusion, etc). Figure out which language department is the most fun in your school and give a 101 course a go. It lead to me studying in Japan for a year, which was some of the best times I had in college.

Re: Ask HN: How do hackers make friends?

#33
I went to 5 different high schools before college.

Here are some tricks I found 1) Join or walk into clubs randomly(It's fun) If you feel particularly crazy change your name each time.

It will probably be easiest to walk into 1) book club 2) anime or 3) math/science club 4) syfy club Most of the time these clubs have very simple(or atleast straightforward) agendas and will contain lots of introverts.

If you see someone passionate about something ask about their opinion.

For example "What is your opinion about the most release book, science, topic, etc?"

In college I have had some of the coolest discusses in my Speech class. Some schools combine it with English, but if you can take a Speech class try to. Now it depends on what you find interesting, but it has brought up a lot of fun discussions.

Find a Linux/Hackers group. If you don't have one at your current school, check at the website for a close Community Colleges. If you are lucky they will sometimes have some pretty cool veterans heading the group that remember the good ol' days.

Re: Ask HN: How do hackers make friends?

#34
Start a club. Run an event. Get yourself in a position of power, you might even become popular, but you still mightn't find any friends. Do outreach for an organization of some sort. Run stories for the college newspaper and interview people. Try to get press privileges.

Re: Ask HN: How do hackers make friends?

#36
(disclaimer) This is not for everybody (disclaimer)

If you walk alone on a street you probably don't interact with other people, but if you walk the same street with a medium-sized or small dog this is a very different history. Is very curious but a lot of small talk is generated with other people, even strangers, specially with other dog owners. If our dog looks well cared, not specially dangerous, healthy and happy a lot of people will hang around to touch him, and will talk with you.

A dog is not a toy, is a responsability, with expensive vet bills, food, maybe the urge to bark "hello world" in the middle of the night, and needs two walks each day, (even if you wake-up sunday morning after a party with a big headache). But if you feel alone and depressed and you can have one in your house a good dog is a powerful antidote for both, one of the best antidotes of the whole world in my opinion.

Every owner of a dog need to deal with the cleaning of dog faeces. This means to carry with you a plastic bag and a pair of gloves every time you exit your home. Don't forget this. Travels and hotels can require also some special measures.

A more easier option that could fit better for you is a ferret.

Advantages: don't make much noise, needs only about an hour of attention/day, You can have it safely in a cage in your house, they sleep most of the day whereas you work in the computer

Problems: can bite when angry but the main problem is the odour. They smell, specially in the mating's season. The problem is much avoided if the odour glands are extirpated. If you have only a female you need to assure either to breed or to sterilize her (The ferret females can die by "lack of sex", sounds funny but is very sad to see). Ask in the pet shop.

Ferrets feel the urge to explore any hole in the floor, (including WC's) or any crevice in a wall. Don't permit this, you can lost your pet. Use an harness to stop the small livingstone.

They steal and hide also any thing that they found interesting for a further review, from potatos to plastic caps. Under the beds, etc.

See also: http://www.seniorlink.co.nz/interests/pets/ferret.shtml

Cats: I say ferrets and not cats because you can walk a ferret in the park with a harness, but if you walk a cat you will be a little more in the weird side, with the spider, snakes, cricket and lizard's owners. Cats are cool and a great theme of conversation; You can atract all girls in a mile if you have a small kitten in your hand (is a scientific fact), but this kitten will grow, escape and do some nasty things with your curtains some day. Different advantages and problems.

Any small mammal, like a fancy mouse, can make you feel better and help you to generate a conversation. But they are rarely carried or seen outdoors.

Just remember that you need to implicate and care any pet, and this can lead to some troubles or discomfort in your life. There is not a thing like "the perfect pet" (maybe fishes?).

Re: Ask HN: How do hackers make friends?

#37
post #27

They don't.It's a lonely life..

There's something pretty universal about making friends. Rarely, if ever will people come up to you if they don't know you and invite you out. I made a point of doing it when I saw someone sitting alone at the dining hall, but it's not something that happens often.

People you know don't invite you out because they don't know that you like them. Invite THEM to go catch a movie, or play pool, or grab food. Why on earth would someone want to hang out with you if they don't even know that you want to hang out with them?

Stop relying on other people to be friends with you, go out and be friends with other people. Be that guy.

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