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Ask HN: I am programmer, i wan't to die, what can i do?

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Re: Ask HN: I am programmer, i wan't to die, what can i do?

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Post by droopyEyelids »

Don't listen to all these other people with their generic suggestions like you're a generic instantiation of 'depressed loser' who will respond to the appropriate generic.advice() method.

I've got a list of things worth getting out of bed for. Maybe it'll make you smile. You're not alone.

http://vrunt.info/feedbuzz/6-reasons-to-get-out-of-bed-in-th...

Re: Ask HN: I am programmer, i wan't to die, what can i do?

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Post by alok-g »

This is a decision that affects the rest of your life, so you would want this to be a solid decision. You are inclined towards one choice today, but think about the situation a decade later. Are you sure that your decision/inclination is mature enough that it would not be different a decade from now if you were to continue?

I have been in a similar situation, and it would have been a mistake for me if I had taken the step.

Cannot say more without knowing more about you and your situation really. In my case, that period ended up not breaking me, but rather making me. The new perspectives I developed allow me to think outside the box, forget past things more readily (which I find helpful for innovation), and gain significant confidence. I understood myself better coming out of that phase.

One thing that helped was a realization that many great men have been in similar phases (and in my case for a similar reason as mine). Bertrand Russell is an example I had come across then (Google to find out more on this).

Some other things that can help included taking genuine interest outside of programming/technology. Spend some time figuring out how great musicians create that music (what is their thought process like?), how movie makers write and make movies, how comedians come up with humor, ... even how leaders say things to get an otherwise difficult message across.

Re: Ask HN: I am programmer, i wan't to die, what can i do?

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Post by coldtea »

>I am programmer, i wan't to die, what can i do?

You DON'T want to die. I mean, you might superficially want it.

But what you really feel is that the whole "game" is BS, that the goals they have set up for you (and you might have internalized) are not worthy, that the societal structure around you is based on lies and hypocrisy etc.

Instead of dying try something else:

1) Understand that this life, the one that failed you, is not all there is. Or all there can be. Fight to change it. Now you have a purpose.

2) Get another life. Another job, another town, another country even. Nothing like a different culture to bring a new perspective. It's not impossible: millions of expats do it every day. You can even start from scratch, money wise. What do you have to lose? You were about to kill yourself anyway.

Re: Ask HN: I am programmer, i wan't to die, what can i do?

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Post by flipcoder »

davewasthere wrote: post #26

Purchase nitrogen gas. Breathe that in instead of Oxygen. It looks like a peaceful way to go. http://lostallhope.com/suicide-methods/plastic-bag-gas That said, life has a lot going for it. There are always cool things to do, people to meet, laughs to be had, love to be given etc... Failing that, go browse lolcats for a while. Also, this may help: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0zBoD_ojxFA , or possibly this: http://w…

Are you fucking kidding me?
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