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When sending a VSR that might otherwise be rude, I just add "Sent from my iPhone" at the bottom. Don't tell anyone.
It gets suspicious if you write this and you don't have an iPhone ;)
(I know it's a rotary phone. But it existed pre-emoji so renders most anywhere, where U+1F4F1 [📱] doesn't.)
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This is not social awkwardness. This is social efficiency.
BTW. Since we're talking about efficiency down this thread, here's a very nice example of optimizing communication: http://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Crocker%27s_rules I wish this concept was more widely known though. EDIT: original description ( http://www.sl4.org/crocker.html ) is dead but I found it's contents in cache, so I'm quoting it below: http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:http://... Declaring…
Would a better name be "Crocker's approach" or "Crocker's style"?
Annnnnnd this is why geeks have a reputation for social awkwardness.
VSRE sounds great for anyone with limited time, and sufficient trust. I'd feel good using something like this with another person who I know well, or know to be businesslike. I wouldn't use this with someone I don't know well in a social context.
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Protocols are about consensus, almost by definition. In computer protocols, we get the consensus before we start using the protocol. In social interactions, we're molding the protocol as we use it. As for communicating "correctly", it's a matter of (mostly) definitions and circumstances whether putting people off and "correct" communication are consistent. You may have transmitted the correct information to someone's…
You can't communicate effectively without a protocol/language/etc, but communicating is not about consensus; it's about communicating ideas/thoughts/etc. Consensus is a part of communication, not its aim. I agree that not offending/annoying someone is beneficial and might outweigh the message you have to communicate, but that isn't relevant to discussion about the efficiency of the protocol. If in spite of brusquenes…
In a feudal society a lord might send a written missive to the King or Queen, and if they did it would contain a ton of horribly polite boilerplate, because the consensus of the time on both sides was that anything less was disrespectful.
It is very possible that your lack of words in a given communication sends a point across that you never intended, even if the point you had in mind also made it across.
I think you're jumping ahead; it can't be an acronym before people even start using it. Maybe write "Short reply OK" for now.
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Personally, I find the latter response just disrespectful of my time. If all you want/need to say is you can't make it, don't write a bloody novel! All I need is an answer. There's a time and place for long communication and it's in person. Not in an email.
That would be a problem between you and...you. People are more important than "your time", and a failure to realize that is a dehumanization of the other party. The latter response demonstrates emotional sensitivity towards the other person in the conversation. Among most people, that is important. It makes the other party feel good. It reinforces that you do care about the other party enough to ensure that they are…
Welcome to the generation of twitter. :)
I love this. I'm also extremely fond of EOM (short for End Of Message. An email with a short subject and no body). Often I send EOMs to imply a VSRE. For example, "Grill tonight? Have burgers. Off work @ 6. EOM" Very interested in learning others.
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No, you've got it all wrong! Geeks aren't socially awkward, they're socially "efficient" Social conventions aren't established by protocol drafts, they're organic. Also, people write long replies for a reason. Wording indicates emotional state. If you have trouble reading emotional state, you don't care. If, like most people, you do care, then this proposal is ridiculous. An example: "How about we schedule lunch next…
Sounds like the VSRP would be more like: "Can't. Next month?"
"No. Next month?"