The secrets of body language

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Post by neiljohnson » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 7:31 PM UTC

The secrets of body language
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Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by civilian » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 8:30 PM UTC

Here's the TED talk from the researcher herself: http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes...

Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by Aurel1us » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 8:37 PM UTC

civilian wrote: post #2

Here's the TED talk from the researcher herself: http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes...

Came here to post that link. One of the best TED talks ever!

Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by civilian » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 8:51 PM UTC

Aurel1us wrote: post #3

civilian wrote: post #2

Here's the TED talk from the researcher herself: http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes...

Came here to post that link. One of the best TED talks ever!

Well I beat you to it :-P is your username inspired by Marcus Aurelius? (I'm almost done with Meditations and it's great.)

Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by gingerlime » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 8:52 PM UTC

Nice writeup. Interesting to see quite a few of those from buffer covering some interesting research into stuff that affects our lives.

there's little typo in 'Our nonverbals gove(r)n' though...

Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by doki_pen » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 8:53 PM UTC

I hate it when people put their feet up on tables, especially near my person. If you did that around me I'd just think you were an asshole.

Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by solistice » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 8:54 PM UTC

As a great practical guide to reading and applying body language, I'd recommend "What everybody is saying" by Dave Navarro. Guy used to do body language analysis for the FBI afaik, and then wrote a book about it.

http://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/d...

Concerning the body language tips the article recomends, I think everyone except arms crossed behind head is covered for in the book. Arm akimbo, crossed legs, etc.

As a personal tip, I'd give the thumbs up. No, like actually stretch your thumbs out when you walk around or talk to people, and leave them out of your pockets. It's ok to put the rest of the hand in, but the thumbs stay out.

Ahh, and if you're arguing, even if you want to, don't start undressing yourself, no matter how angry you are. 2 people arguing and taking jackets and shirts off usually means business you don't want to be part of neccesairily.

Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by jonahx » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 8:57 PM UTC

doki_pen wrote: post #6

I hate it when people put their feet up on tables, especially near my person. If you did that around me I'd just think you were an asshole.

I'd just ask you to grab me a coffee

Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by nicolasd » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 8:59 PM UTC

civilian wrote: post #2

Here's the TED talk from the researcher herself: http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes...

Haha, I wanted to post that link too ;) Especially the "Fake it till you make it" - principle is interesting

Re: The secrets of body language

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Post by visionpol » Thu, Apr 18, 2013, 9:00 PM UTC

I know that body language and customs are different, but I wanted to point out that in some Asian cultures, arm-crossing is done as a sign of respect, especially towards elders. It's a source of confusion and amusement for older people when the Western-integrated young people get angry.

That said, one should keep an eye out for more than just nonverbal cues, as telling as they may be.