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I can't give you any insight into developer wages. But as far as commuting in the Houston area goes, I used to commute from Fort Bend County to Bush Airport (which really was an absurd commute) and it took me about an hour each way. So if you're trying to keep your commute under 45 minutes each way, you may have a wider area of acceptable areas to live in. Especially if you are thinking of companies inside the loop.
I'll be making about $83k/year this coming June (haven't graduated yet...) working in the Greenway area in the loop. I have an apartment lined up which will actually be in walking distance, so life will be easy. But I'm the sort of person who tends to think too far forward in the future, and I don't want to be renting an apartment my whole life. To me, the sooner one owns a home (and by own I mean own, not a mortgage…
This is precisely what I've done with my life for the last five years. It works, on one condition: you must find, connect with, and sell the Right Kind Of Customers for it to work.
If you're just a programmer (which, of course, Patrick famously recommends against identifying as), you are competing against every other "programmer" with your list of bullet-point skills, many in places a lot cheaper than even your "cheap area in which one lives"— e.g. eastern Europe, former Soviet states, etc.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iron_law_of_wages
The trick is to position, market, and brand yourself as a specialized, boutique consultancy that incorporates various highly-sought-after technical skills in a complete "special sauce" package for businesses to achieve business-ey goals. People LOVE good abstractions, and are willing to pay for them. Be a problem solver/revenue increaser, not a "programmer". If you try to compete on a specific, easily-defined technical skillset, you'll lose to vast hordes of internet-connected Romanians, Latvians, and Ukranians every time - they can maintain a very comfortable standard of living at prices way below what you could offer your services for.