I think ngninx is likely faster and more stable than apache, but I have yet to see anything close to a trustworthy benchmark. I come from the php world, and people always say how much lower-memory nginx+php-fpm is than apache+mod_php. Well no doubt! If you understand how the architecture actually works, it's clear this isn't a fair comparison. mod_php means php is fully-loaded for serving statics, not to mention havi…
As for ThreadStackSize: it impacts virtual memory but not actual memory usage. Actual memory usage stays the same. You should never use the 'vm size' as a good measurement of memory usage. Unfortunately memory management on modern OSes is complicated and people don't understand the numbers, so they arbitrarily pick a column in 'ps' and conclude that X is bloating memory... :(