Check out this thread, there are lots of great advice in it. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5378462
30? pffff ;)
I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
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Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#22Good luck. Less procrastination, less reading of "useful" news, less reinventing the wheels. More concentration on result.
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#23There's more time than life, buddy. Get up yourself and start trying everything so you find your path.
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#24First, who are you accountable to? Saying "HN" is too easy. Find someone who will keep you on track with this. A close friend/significant other is a good start. Second, what's your plan? I didn't see one. You need to have some objective metric you will be accountable to.
Finally, be careful what definition of success you accept. Dont pin your self-esteem on this new change. You don't want that kind of pressure. HN is replete with self-congratulatory blog posts and Super Important Business Talk that is sometimes more posturing than reality. Change because you want to (it sounds like you do), and work on yourself as hard as you do this endeavor. Even if you crash and burn, you will come out far, far ahead.
You damage yourself when you couple your self-worth with your accomplishments. It's a natural tendency in high-achievers, but that doesn't make it a great idea.
P.S. don't be hard on yourself for being a late bloomer. Just work your ass off at something that you like.
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#25You just said what you don't have, but what about what you actually have ? I know tons of people hitting 60 (like my father) that don't even think in open a business. Never. Ever. At poor countries like mine (Brazil), thinking about opening a business is almost crazy. People drop school and go work for government or big companies. You my dear, have the desire. The guts to come here and expose yourself, you are educated and is based on a evolved country. You don't have the fucking idea about how much you already have! Stop complaining and go do your job, create your own very first small business. Start with something small, like $1000 income, but for God sake, start it today ! Don't let small things, like temporary defeat, go into your way.
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#26You sound depressed, and I think you should be talking to people about getting help. Your career will be fine no matter what you do. Please take your health seriously.
Adding the second line was a good edit, kudos on that.
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#27Try to surround yourself with others, spend time with people either online or face-to-face. Start one or two other physical activities to help you get your mind off things.
Then, start with a really small bite-size idea, something that seems so trivial and implement it and get it done. Then slowly start building on that tiny idea and keep adding to it. This will help you show progress, will allow you to focus and get a feeling of accomplishment. Over time, which by the way,you have the rest of your life, you can build on that and figure out what you really want to do.
Hang in there.
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#28"I don't have too much time left. My 20ies are gone. "
There's no question that many of Steve Jobs' greatest innovations and ideas came late in his life. Many great people are late bloomers, and its by selection bias that you think most people achieve greatness at early age.
You should have an email address or something else so that we could reach out to you directly :)
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#29Good luck man. It takes a lot of guts to put yourself out there like that.
(by the way, you live in one of the best countries in the world, that's gotta provide an added boost)
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#30Good luck man. But you should just try to achieve doing something that makes you happy. Making boatloads of money, the next Google, or some other goal that 1/10000000 people would ever achieve is not the be all end all of it (if it's even a valid life goal).
Yes, but so far, I literally haven't achieved anything. I'm not shooting for Google or Facebook. If only I can find a small niche market, I would be perfectly content with that.
Small niche market ? It's easy to find, you just have to look inside yourself and your own problems. Like wanting to start a small business and not knowing how. So your next niche market is: "Employees who wants to start a business". Now go on and create your solution or product not to solve the problem entirely, but to reduce the pain. Step by Step.