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Did porn warp me forever?

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Re: Did porn warp me forever?

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Do we care? The next thing he will suggest: let's censor, let's break the web, let's put people in the jail, let's force parents to spy on their children, let's take parenting rights from ones who don't. Let's create a police state because he doesn't like porn. His problems with porn is just his problems. I suggest dealing with it.

What article did you read?

He does not condemn porn. He questions what it means to have a natural sexuality when "Sexiness is always constructed — it used to be normatively hot to be fat and pale! " His problem is not that he has "demons", but that "I feel estranged from my sexuality, like it’s somebody else’s."

The piece comes across to me as very self reflective, asking '(why) is this a problem?' 'What would I be like in not for Y (porn)', and so forth.

I do not see any clear path to a police state (and I like to think of myself as (relativly) extremely biased to seeing a police state).

Re: Did porn warp me forever?

#14
Does it make sense to teach this to children? Just like "Smoking isn't good for your health."(which I believe worked for me) you could teach "Porn isn't good for you, if you want to enjoy sex."

Re: Did porn warp me forever?

#15

Do we care? The next thing he will suggest: let's censor, let's break the web, let's put people in the jail, let's force parents to spy on their children, let's take parenting rights from ones who don't. Let's create a police state because he doesn't like porn. His problems with porn is just his problems. I suggest dealing with it.

While I agree entirely with you, another point the author of the article is making is that his problems may be typical in kids growing up with the world wide web at their fingertips. That perspective brings us to a different question: What can we do to ensure safe and positive sexual development in children without censoring the web and imposing our generation's morals on the next?

> While I agree entirely with you, another point the author of the article is making is that his problems may be typical in kids growing up with the world wide web at their fingertips.

what the web has to do with it? as a teenager I could buy hardcore porn magazines without any problems.

Re: Did porn warp me forever?

#16
I couldn't finish the article because I found the examples too disturbing. Just a warning for those of you who aren't very familiar with online porn.

Could someone give me a summary of the article?

Re: Did porn warp me forever?

#17

Do we care? The next thing he will suggest: let's censor, let's break the web, let's put people in the jail, let's force parents to spy on their children, let's take parenting rights from ones who don't. Let's create a police state because he doesn't like porn. His problems with porn is just his problems. I suggest dealing with it.

What article did you read? He does not condemn porn. He questions what it means to have a natural sexuality when "Sexiness is always constructed — it used to be normatively hot to be fat and pale! " His problem is not that he has "demons", but that "I feel estranged from my sexuality, like it’s somebody else’s." The piece comes across to me as very self reflective, asking '(why) is this a problem?' 'What would I be l…

I don't really blame anything on the author.

But it seems to me that winter is coming and we all might be heading to a police state. And I don't see how his article can't be used as a brick in the wall constructed by people not really caring about us (but only about "demons" in their heads") between us and free speech, freedom of expression and sometimes physical freedom.

That's what I'm fearing.

Re: Did porn warp me forever?

#18
There is a subreddit with dozens of thousands of people with the goal of quitting porn/masturbating. http://www.reddit.com/r/nofap

I am concerned about the future. Augmented reality is just around the corner, and virtual sex is almost certainly in our future. How would easy access to an unlimited amount of all types of "sex" imaginable affect society?

Re: Did porn warp me forever?

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post #14

Does it make sense to teach this to children? Just like "Smoking isn't good for your health."(which I believe worked for me) you could teach "Porn isn't good for you, if you want to enjoy sex."

Porn is an instant pleasure. Enjoying sex in eight years (earlier if you're lucky but don't cross your fingers just yet) does not compare very well to that.

I've never tried to smoke so I can't really compare.

Re: Did porn warp me forever?

#20

Earlier quoted context omitted.

So you got to the end of the article that suggested none of these things and said to yourself "well he didn't say it but I bet he was thinking it"?

That's what actually gets proposed (and sometimes even passed) as laws each time.

Aren't you just projecting your own fear here? We can deal with it as comes up.
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