This is the year I learned that the longer I live, the more people close to me I will lose.
What was your most painful realisation of 2012?
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Re: What was your most painful realisation of 2012?
#32Working at a successful startup is no fun at all.
Thanks for that :) I've read all the srtatup founder stories and they all seem to involve WAY too much work and way too many hours.
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#33Earlier quoted context omitted.
This is a big one, and one I'm in the middle of fighting with right now. As a developer its hard to release a product with your name attached when you know its not as good as it can be. Releasing early means getting more exposure and possibly force you to realize your a writing something no-one earlier. What if though you are turning potential customer's away who are unimpressed with your first couple releases? Are t…
Are you writing software or running a company? As a business person it's fiscal suicide to release a product for which there is no market. Most people see more benefit from a mediocre mechanic than a world-class buggy whip manufacture. If the people who will see your product on the first iteration are the majority of your potential customers then chances are your business is a failure anyway. How many of us think les…
Trying to do both.
"How many of us think less of PG because HN uses tables?"
I understand your point, but I think that is more of a implementation of features, rather than which features make it in for first release.
Its a valid point that if the first few users are the majority then you are in trouble. I would hope that the first few users/adopters however would become my biggest cheerleaders thus contributing to a snowball effect of new users.
Re: What was your most painful realisation of 2012?
#34Most people, myself included, don't actually do the things they want to do most of the time. Put another way, first order desires almost never really govern anyone's behavior, and second order desires are dictated almost exclusively by psychological baggage that has little to do with their adult lives.
I have witnessed this in myself and others, and it is painful to both see and experience. Of course the question is: what can we do about it?
Get passionate about what you want to do. Skive, make time, lie cheat and steal to do what you want. Make your hobby/free time important to you.
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#35I am 25 years old and I don't have the $100,000 job that everyone seems to have no trouble getting =(
Less late night gaming.
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#36That nasty code is as equally present in a 5 man development group as a 5,000 man group. Absolutely fantastic folks, but the codebase...
One more un-closed tag and I quit!
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#37No matter how much effort and thought is put into writing quality code, looking back in a year or two I will cringe at it. Second, I recently saw the accepted answers per tag on broken down by average age on stackoverflow. Just realized I am over the hill (as far as software development goes)...
Re: What was your most painful realisation of 2012?
#38All we love we leave behind. Converge released an album with this title this year.
2012 was bleak for me. I lost my grandfather and my aunt within a week from one another. Soon after, my girlfriend left me to be with someone else. I moved out of the house that we had rented together, and left her with the first two dogs that were ever partly 'mine.'
She left me with the last dog we rescued, Gatsby. Before we brought him home, she clarified he was my dog and that if anything happened between us I was to take responsibility of him. I guess I should have seen the break up coming.
So now here I am. Alone in this house, with Gatsby. I mostly think about how one day I'll have to leave him behind too. It's too easy to become jaded by loss and abandonment. It's too easy to tell your friends that you have work to do, just so you don't have to go out and face them. It's too easy to stop caring, when caring is what hurt you in the first place.
So is "all we love we leave behind" my most painful realization of 2012? Not quite, but close. These events took place about 5-6 months ago. From then until now, AWLWLB has been stuck in my head, but the most painful realization happened just recently. I _have_ to go on loving anyway. I have to keep trying to make relationships and friendships work. I have to put forth effort, whether I'll lose them or not.
It's not about what you've lost, but what you had. Eventually all of the things you have, will be things that you once had, and that's all you will ever have.
Here's to 2013.
Re: What was your most painful realisation of 2012?
#39How easy it is to fail.
How easy it is to do it all wrong.
How easy it is to make the wrong decisions.
How easy it is to get really down on yourself.
How easy it is to blame others for your own mistakes.
How easy is is to think others are right and you are wrong.
How easy it is to think it is hard to get back up and really "do it" and "do it right".
How easy it is to get back up on your feet once you've made a decision to do it.
How easy it is to then see others were wrong and you were right.
How easy it is once you've done it.
How easy it is.