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The Death of Shame Is Tearing Us Apart

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Re: The Death of Shame Is Tearing Us Apart

#11

I was discussing this the other day. Shame and shaming are alive and well. Especially if you do not agree with whatever paradigm is being pushed, like supporting sports team X or not holding the prevailing opinion.

The "-phobic" seems to be the suffix to use these days. Just slap it on your favourite term and hurl it at the opponent.

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Re: The Death of Shame Is Tearing Us Apart

#12
post #6

Shame is also a form of social control. Be ashamed you don't know your place, lower class person. Lack of required shame used to be called being "uppity".

I'll tell that to the dude who pees in my staircase every other week, I must be just confused and too rich to understand.

Re: The Death of Shame Is Tearing Us Apart

#13
post #6

Shame is also a form of social control. Be ashamed you don't know your place, lower class person. Lack of required shame used to be called being "uppity".

Like most things in life, moderation is key

Consistency is also important. Making arbitrary distinctions just to cloak personal preferences is hypocritical.

Re: The Death of Shame Is Tearing Us Apart

#14

I was discussing this the other day. Shame and shaming are alive and well. Especially if you do not agree with whatever paradigm is being pushed, like supporting sports team X or not holding the prevailing opinion.

The "-phobic" seems to be the suffix to use these days. Just slap it on your favourite term and hurl it at the opponent.

Are you load-bearingophobic?

Re: The Death of Shame Is Tearing Us Apart

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post #6

Shame is also a form of social control. Be ashamed you don't know your place, lower class person. Lack of required shame used to be called being "uppity".

I'll tell that to the dude who pees in my staircase every other week, I must be just confused and too rich to understand.

That's causing objective damage. We don't invoke shame for behaviors that cause that.

Re: The Death of Shame Is Tearing Us Apart

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post #6

Shame is also a form of social control. Be ashamed you don't know your place, lower class person. Lack of required shame used to be called being "uppity".

Being uppity to your betters is one thing. Being inconsiderate towards everyone is something else.

Re: The Death of Shame Is Tearing Us Apart

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post #15

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'll tell that to the dude who pees in my staircase every other week, I must be just confused and too rich to understand.

That's causing objective damage. We don't invoke shame for behaviors that cause that.

You don't? Shame on you.
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