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Post by crims0n »

gameman144 wrote: post #164
seizethecheese wrote: post #101

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It’s actually incomprehensible as a non parent. Your entire psychology re-orients after kids.

I actually have long disagreed with this sentiment -- I know people who don't want and never want kids, and they seem to totally comprehend the kind of love I have for my children. I also remember being a teenager and always kind of understanding the depth of the love my parents had for me (as in knowing "they love me implicitly, and they'd die for me, and they wish me so much happiness", and all the other trappings…

I think it is more than that though. Parenthood is a long, multi-year process full of hormones, self-reflection, and fundamental changes to your psyche. A non-parent can intellectually understand what happens and why, can emotionally understand or feel that love by swapping out kids with partners, pets, etc. But I believe there is a level of understanding that is just not possible unless you also go through that process. Hard to describe. Closest analog I can think of right now is my perspective on pregnancy vs my wife's.

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retired wrote: post #178
hbarka wrote: post #168

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Just give me a place with safe dense public transportation, walkable places to eat, and nature to relax.

Haven't used public transport in a long time. I used it to commute in the past but stopped using it during COVID. Can't say I miss it. Prefer to just leave when I want, go where I want and stay there as long as I want. All while not enjoying other peoples music and smell or waiting at a platform for ages.

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Post by OkB00mer »

retired wrote: post #178
hbarka wrote: post #168

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Just give me a place with safe dense public transportation, walkable places to eat, and nature to relax.

Haven't used public transport in a long time. I used it to commute in the past but stopped using it during COVID. Can't say I miss it. Prefer to just leave when I want, go where I want and stay there as long as I want. All while not enjoying other peoples music and smell or waiting at a platform for ages.

Ok boomer

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Post by flexagoon »

mlyle wrote: post #133
zkmon wrote: post #107

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Being loved is not a weakness. But a strong requirement to be loved is a weakness because that means you don't have strength to be happy without being loved.

Eating is not a weakness. But a strong requirement to eat is a weakness because you don't have the strength to be happy without eating.

Isn't that true? Not being able to live without eating is, in fact, a weakness, just a very common one.

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Post by fwip »

retired wrote: post #178
hbarka wrote: post #168

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Just give me a place with safe dense public transportation, walkable places to eat, and nature to relax.

Haven't used public transport in a long time. I used it to commute in the past but stopped using it during COVID. Can't say I miss it. Prefer to just leave when I want, go where I want and stay there as long as I want. All while not enjoying other peoples music and smell or waiting at a platform for ages.

With good enough public transit, you can do all that. When I lived in Seattle, I did not bother looking at the bus schedule before leaving, because usually I was waiting less than 10 minutes.

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Post by retired »

OkB00mer wrote: post #183
retired wrote: post #178

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Haven't used public transport in a long time. I used it to commute in the past but stopped using it during COVID. Can't say I miss it. Prefer to just leave when I want, go where I want and stay there as long as I want. All while not enjoying other peoples music and smell or waiting at a platform for ages.

Ok boomer

Millennial actually.

Re: The Real Luxuries In Life

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Post by fwip »

bheadmaster wrote: post #57
thousand_nights wrote: post #11

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this is nice to know as someone who is the adult child. i used to argue a lot with my parents when i was still living with them, but ever since i moved out and we only see each other once every few months, our relationship has improved so much, and we're always happy to see each other in smaller doses

It's because we're no longer a burden. Many parents would gasp at this sentence, but the same parents would likely complain to anyone who'd listen about how negatively their children are affecting their lives.

It's also the other way around - when the parent is no longer in charge of you, you can coexist as peers more easily.

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Post by flexagoon »

retired wrote: post #178
hbarka wrote: post #168

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Just give me a place with safe dense public transportation, walkable places to eat, and nature to relax.

Haven't used public transport in a long time. I used it to commute in the past but stopped using it during COVID. Can't say I miss it. Prefer to just leave when I want, go where I want and stay there as long as I want. All while not enjoying other peoples music and smell or waiting at a platform for ages.

> Prefer to just leave when I want, go where I want and stay there as long as I want.

Which you can do with a good public transport system! You should not have to wait for a subway train for more than 5 minutes. Ideally no more than 1-2.

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Post by retired »

fwip wrote: post #185
retired wrote: post #178

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Haven't used public transport in a long time. I used it to commute in the past but stopped using it during COVID. Can't say I miss it. Prefer to just leave when I want, go where I want and stay there as long as I want. All while not enjoying other peoples music and smell or waiting at a platform for ages.

With good enough public transit, you can do all that. When I lived in Seattle, I did not bother looking at the bus schedule before leaving, because usually I was waiting less than 10 minutes.

Must be nice, I have not encountered such public transport in the places I lived in Europe.

It's 0:45 currently. I want to grab an ice cream at McDonalds. Next bus leaves at 1:25. It takes the bus 20 minutes to get there and then it is a 5 minute walk. It is also a 10 minute walk to the bus station in my neighborhood. And since it's past 22:00 there are probably a bunch of crazies on the bus. Also a high chance of puke and trash in the bus.

Why would I do that if I can grab my bike and it is only a 10 minute ride.

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