Have you thought about homeschooling up to a certain age/grade? There is a category of socialization skills that only a lot of direct, in-person, peer-to-peer time builds.
Are you able to point to any literature supporting this statement?
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#22Earlier quoted context omitted.
and didn't get lunch until our school work was done I am not surprised this is a salient childhood memory.
It sounds like you're interpreting that in a way I didn't say or intend. In fact, the exact opposite. It was the culmination of my list of things I think my parents did really well. It wasn't oppressive. It was disciplined. I learned more in 3 hours at home than I did my senior year going to public high school for 8 hours a day.
I did not interpret it at all.
I expect it was quite motivating at the most basic of levels.
Re: Ask HN: Anyone homeschooling their kids?
#23Have you thought about homeschooling up to a certain age/grade? There is a category of socialization skills that only a lot of direct, in-person, peer-to-peer time builds.
Alternatively, homeschool meet-up groups, or cousins.
I used to teach a homeschool PE class that was really just socialization with a theme.
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#24Earlier quoted context omitted.
Could you expand on this please? In a positive or negative way?
In a negative way. They weren't bad children, just undersocialized. The benefits of school go beyond what the teachers teach.
Counterpoint: I was also a camp counselor in my teens and 20s, and I even taught homeschool.
They were definitely easy to pick out, but I think in a good way. They were undersocialized with children, but felt way more at ease around adults. They understood more mature humor, spoke larger ideas in better sentences, and behaved perfectly.
And sure, they were a little "weird." As everyone ought to strive to be.
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#25Regardless of how you do it, I can't recommend enough that parents do this one thing that I did with my kids. Do force them to write something. Every. Single. Day. It doesn't really matter what about, just ask them to do it and share it with you.
We have a group chat and since they were in middle school (I really should've started this sooner), they'd write a few paragraphs about their day. What they've done, the experiences, the new things they learned, etc. I was very strict about it. Sometimes I would wake the kids if they forgot to write anything. That really pissed off my wife, she'd be like: "you're punishing them over nothing". Sometimes I would forget to check, and they'd miss a day or a few. Then I would force them to backfill the missed days, etc.
This simple, daily exercise turned out to be the best possible gift with enormous compounding effect. My daughter at some point got the presidential award of academic excellence, my son went to college and received a scholarship, for a while he was a competitive swimmer, with dozens of medals - his HS team got second place and a state record, and all.
If you have kids, ask them for this simplest possible thing, start as early as you could. I promise you, years later, one day, they will be thanking you, and this random person on HN.
Re: Ask HN: Anyone homeschooling their kids?
#26Have you thought about homeschooling up to a certain age/grade? There is a category of socialization skills that only a lot of direct, in-person, peer-to-peer time builds.
Are you able to point to any literature supporting this statement?
If I wanted to maybe, maybe not. I am basing it off my personal experience (homeschooled until my teens, then placed in a public school which expanded my interpersonal skills greatly and allowed me to function properly in the workforce).