It's a profound thing to lose someone that intertwined in your life. I should know.
Sorry about such a profound loss.
Maybe you can find some meaning in the fact that it did not happen the otherway around.
In Memory of My Wife, Elise Cawley, with Thanks for 36 Wonderful Years
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Re: In Memory of My Wife, Elise Cawley, with Thanks for 36 Wonderful Years
#102I met Stephen in 2023 at some MIT AI conference. He was the kindest, most grandfatherly person. I was expecting to meet a relatively pontifical person given some of his work, but he was such the opposite that I was completely taken aback. I spent two hours that evening with him and a small group of people talking about language and maths and so on. (He was very kind to let me take a photo: https://postimg.cc/LYmVCs0G…
> And please, God, let me die with my wife like John Nash did in that
> NJ Turnpike taxi crash.
I feel you. My worst fear in life is surviving my wife of so far 20 years. I hope that we both reach 80 years old and sit next to each other in rocking chairs and let the days pass by.
Re: In Memory of My Wife, Elise Cawley, with Thanks for 36 Wonderful Years
#103It's a profound thing to lose someone that intertwined in your life. I should know.
I am sorry for your loss, friend. Be well.
Re: In Memory of My Wife, Elise Cawley, with Thanks for 36 Wonderful Years
#104Earlier quoted context omitted.
A read a story of a guy who bumped into him at conference and had some sort of conversation. The following week he received a follow-up from Wolfram's office with his assigned conversation number. The number was to be used for all follow-ups.
I remember reading about a personal CRM project called Monica years ago. Does anyone here still use it? Is there an actively maintained alternative?
I tried to use it with the aim of remembering more about my friends' lives and things they've told me but it felt a bit... weird. I ended up making more of an effort to do it with grey matter alone, and it kind of worked but not really, but I felt better about it
Re: In Memory of My Wife, Elise Cawley, with Thanks for 36 Wonderful Years
#105Earlier quoted context omitted.
A read a story of a guy who bumped into him at conference and had some sort of conversation. The following week he received a follow-up from Wolfram's office with his assigned conversation number. The number was to be used for all follow-ups.
I remember reading about a personal CRM project called Monica years ago. Does anyone here still use it? Is there an actively maintained alternative?
I tried using it, but it didn't work well in my experience.
There was be a huge textarea for notes, so I'd write detailed notes after a good conversation, but it didn't auto-save, so if your browser crashed or you accidentally closed the tab, you lose everything. There would also be weird CSRF token errors, which also could cause you to lose everything you just typed.
I started writing in a markdown file and then copying over, and then I realized it's simpler to just write in markdown files and skip the app entirely, so I now just use different markdown files for each person and I add a date heading when I want to add a new entry.
The design of Monica also never quite matched my thinking. There were all these features designed to capture the relationship graph of how you knew everyone and what all their friends and pets' names are and how they met and what their birthdays are, but for me, the thing I want to remember is like, "Oh, when I saw Joe last year, he was getting into woodworking. When I see him next week, I want to ask how that's going." I never feel like, "I bet Joe will be so impressed that I remembered how he met his friend Ned!"
Re: In Memory of My Wife, Elise Cawley, with Thanks for 36 Wonderful Years
#106I'm making this about me, so feel free to skip past this. I've been married for 26 years, which means I'd only have 10 more years with my wife, which would take us almost into retirement. That's not near enough. We're meant to have at least another 25-30 to take us deep into our 70s, becoming grandparents and seeing out that whole stage of life. No guarantees in life, obviously, but there's no way to plan a backup "l…
My grandpa had 74 years with grandma until she passed away early this year and even at 99 the feeling of loss is all the same.
"How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard"
- Winnie the Pooh
Re: In Memory of My Wife, Elise Cawley, with Thanks for 36 Wonderful Years
#107"She also asserted that physics differs from math mainly in its introduction of the concept of time. "
intuitively I think thats just a really cool insight, though formally I suck both at math and physics so can't really tell.
Its a very good read, such an interesting person she was, I'm sorry for his loss.
Re: In Memory of My Wife, Elise Cawley, with Thanks for 36 Wonderful Years
#108Earlier quoted context omitted.
A read a story of a guy who bumped into him at conference and had some sort of conversation. The following week he received a follow-up from Wolfram's office with his assigned conversation number. The number was to be used for all follow-ups.
I remember reading about a personal CRM project called Monica years ago. Does anyone here still use it? Is there an actively maintained alternative?
If you're on a Mac, I actively maintain one called Queue (https://queue.community), and it's what I use to manage my own relationships.
Whereas Monica is very manual, Queue syncs your Apple Mail, Messages, phone calls, FaceTimes, and calendar to create a timeline of each of your relationships automatically, and reminds you to reach out when it's been a while. Message content is analyzed on device and never leaves your machine.
I charge $49/year, so quite a bit less than Dex.