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Re: Netflix employee fired for sharing personal details in retreat trust exercise

#51

Don't engage in a parasocial relationship with your employer. They're not your friends.

I dunno, ketamine treatment for depression isn't that weird.

Announcing your medications at a public work function is kind of weird though, regardless of what they are. Is that just me?

Re: Netflix employee fired for sharing personal details in retreat trust exercise

#52
It always surprises me when people don't understand that the employee-employer relationship is an adversarial one. Unless you're in a democratic co-op or similar your employer is the enemy and you should never forget that. The correct move is to try to screw them in every legal way at every turn because that is what they are doing to you. Never divulge any information that increases your attack surface, always try to extract the most money for the least effort. This is capitalism 101.

You must not allow them to fool you into thinking that these aren't the rules they're playing by. David Sirlin's "Playing to Win" is a good treatise on how to be good, and perhaps the most important lesson is to play the game by the rules as written, and not by some other set of rules that exists only in your head.

(Though in this case the victim was senior enough that I suspect he was playing the game to the best of his ability, trying to humanize himself to gain the upper hand in some other manipulation game and misplayed, kicking things into the legal arena, as one does)

Re: Netflix employee fired for sharing personal details in retreat trust exercise

#53
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Make shit up. Don't talk about your personal life at a company function, ever. Hell, lie and make an embarrassing but completely legal story. Or something stupid like you were totally embarassed in HS or college. But, never ever share your actual personal lives in a corporate setting. Not one time.

I would strongly discourage anyone from making things up. I have participated in these exercises, and many people simply said, “I really have nothing to share that would interest you.” Those were the people others respected the most. They might share personal things with close friends, but they had a clear definition of what friendship meant. In other words, be a person of character. It is perfectly fine not to be fr…

The problem is that responding that way could be seen as anti-social and counter to the cultural identity of the organization.

Companies will use everything and anything against you when they believe it’s time for you to go.

Re: Netflix employee fired for sharing personal details in retreat trust exercise

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It's not, although rules vary by state. Medical professionals can prescribe it even though it's a Schedule III drug. I get ads for these presumably legitimate therapy services online all the time on major social networks.

should Netflix fire all women on maternity leave, since they most likely were administered fentanyl during delivery ?

why isn't Netflix firing anyone who had even a minor surgery or even tooth extraction done, since it most likely involved opioids

Re: Netflix employee fired for sharing personal details in retreat trust exercise

#56
> Adam Mendler, a workplace expert, told Inc. that this kind of exercise carries real risk when companies invite openness without ever clarifying how that vulnerability will be treated afterward.

I always felt that those trust exercises, "bring your whole self to work", "let us pay for a personality test so we can know each other better" are all ruses to find the most gullible people and then take advantage of them or get rid of them.

Re: Netflix employee fired for sharing personal details in retreat trust exercise

#57
Offsite retreats seem like a bad idea in general, I've never been to one where I felt the team or company worked together better afterwards, and I've seen some spectacularly bad results... like the time the facilitator tried to get to the bottom of tensions between the CTO and head of sales (the classic problem of "Engineering isn't shipping features fast enough" and "Sales is selling features before even consulting with engineering"). The discussion quickly turned shockingly personal and within a month after the retreat both the CTO and head of sales quit. At least they called an end to the retreat early.

Re: Netflix employee fired for sharing personal details in retreat trust exercise

#60

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Could always read the article to find out, since it answers your question.

They don't give any real details

"He said he underwent physician-supervised ketamine therapy in late 2022 to treat depression following his mother’s death.

At a January company retreat this year at a Netflix-owned property in California, Baillie shared this experience "

...

"A company attorney acknowledged that “the ketamine therapy issue has factored into the termination.”"

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