Cease and desist letters from lawyers piling in 3 .. 2 ... 1 ...
They should've done it in a form of .onion service.
Did they ghost you?
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Re: Did they ghost you?
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In 2017 I was talking to a recruiter who genuinely forgot about my application. As in I pinged them, things got moving again, and I actually got hired. In 2021, I talked to a quantum startup and all indications were that the feedback was "overall extremely positive", and the final step would be talking to the CTO or CEO. For some reason HR could not get that meeting scheduled for two weeks, before telling me I didn't…
Or maybe quantum didn't happen?
Or it did and didn't.
Re: Did they ghost you?
#83Is ghosting really such a big deal? Wait until you get an overly smug rejection letter that the author seemed too eager to write, and took too much joy in writing. Some people love to reject, and would never miss an opportunity. Another angle is - If you've been ghosted, you still have not been told no. That means there's no record of you ever getting denied for the position. (and maybe you really haven't been) It's…
You could be waiting to hear back from one company before telling another company that may have extended an offer yes or no, and it can take a while before you determine if you're ghosted or if they're just busy and haven't made a decision yet.
An offer extended is better than an offer you're just hoping might come. Act on what's real.
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You sound like someone that is frequently calling in sick!
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At least my experience in the professional world, if the provided reference says anything negative about the interviewee it’s a massive red flag.
Maybe you don’t think that way, but for every position I have ever posted you’ll get at least 100 applicants, and each of them take a massive amount of time to interview and get through the system to hire.
That reference is one more thing that helps. Better yet, it’s great when someone knows someone that you do, because then it’s easy to vouch for them.
Like when it comes to dating, are you going to date a random person that you know nothing about, or go out on a date that your best friend recommends who knows you?
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#86Earlier quoted context omitted.
You sound like someone that is frequently calling in sick!
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That is true. Then again if you can’t even provide a reference you’re unable to jump a very low bar.
We’re inundated with fake applicants. References are more than mandatory now. But not enough, the whole system is broken.
Also you come off like a reactionary ahole.
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And this is why ghosting is a thing. We've entered into an era when self-defense is more important than outdated notions of politesse . In dating, for instance, it's usually advantageous for a woman to ignore (ghost) a man she wants nothing to do with rather than reject him, to avoid the argument or retaliation that may come with explicit rejection. Too many bad actors have changed the strategy. If you can't handle g…
Dating is different. It's IMO fully inappropriate to draw that comparison. Professionals act professionally. Ghosting is profoundly unprofessional. It is their job to manage the process with full information. End of story. > If you can't handle ghosting, maybe you don't belong in the job or dating markets. Ehhh? This is a very weird, I think silly, perhaps even insulting thing to say. I can handle it. I just think it…
How have they wasted less of your time if they write you a letter vs. ghost you? Either way, you spent time preparing for and following their application/interviewing process. I agree ghosting is unprofessional but it doesn't really cost you anything.
One of your last questions in any interview should be "when should I expect to hear your decision" and if you've heard nothing by then, take it as a "no."
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I have participated in at least 3 rounds of vocational rehabilitation, and one of the major takeaways was writing thank-you notes after any interview. A note could be a card or an email, but a thank-you note simply expresses gratitude for the interviewer’s time and attention. And moreover, a followup will keep your name in their mind, for better or worse. Following up after the interview series may have been the tric…
I hear this advice given quite a bit, but another perspective: I have never been pleased to receive a thank you email from a candidate. I do not want to receive something in my inbox that does not require me to act. It's a micro-annoyance, and if it's a bad day, I might have grumpy thoughts about the candidate being a brownnoser. Show up to the interview clothed, be pleasant and polite, show off your game, and leave…
You know why a thank you works? It puts them back in your inbox. It shows professionalism and often genuine desire for the position.
You sound like someone who most would absolutely dread to work with.
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A few years ago I was "between roles" and applied for a developer position at Roku. For a short time they seemed moderately interested, and I exchanged a few emails with a senior in-house recruiter. And then they went completely quiet - no response to my follow-up emails. So I just put it behine me and got on with looking for a job. Just over a year later I received an email from another in-house recruiter at Roku, t…
And they didn't address the delay at all in their response to you?
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#90Anecdotal, I know, but I was ghosted by Google back in 2004-2005 or thereabouts. Back and forth with a recruiter, who promised me that she would book phone screens. Then heard nothing. Pinged her repeatedly. Nothing. A few years later got another Google recruiter after me. Ended up getting hired in 2008. Looked up the previous recruiter. Her last day at the company was the day she promised she would book phone screen…
To be fair if employees are being fired that abruptly with so little consideration to operational continuity it might be a worse red flag than a recruiter ghosting you.
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