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Prioritize mental health, and why communication is so important
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#102How do you all find a good therapist? I'd imagine it takes some trial and error to find one that fits?
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#103Check what companies he worked for and never work for them. He's got his CV on his website.
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#104> My goals for the end of 2027 are as follows: > Stop making stupid mistakes. I want to be able to finish a task fully without missing or skipping a step. One way to do this is to make a plan for everything you do, and only do that thing. Nothing else. If you are neurodivergent or have other things influencing you mentally, you are _NOT_ going to snap out of it. You are not going to just build a better planning syste…
Reach out to... people?
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#105> My goals for the end of 2027 are as follows: > Stop making stupid mistakes. I want to be able to finish a task fully without missing or skipping a step. One way to do this is to make a plan for everything you do, and only do that thing. Nothing else. If you are neurodivergent or have other things influencing you mentally, you are _NOT_ going to snap out of it. You are not going to just build a better planning syste…
Reach out to... people?
Yes, people. Friends, coworkers, family.
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#106Earlier quoted context omitted.
I wish it was this easy. But mental health is as complex and multifaceted as our brain is. There can be more than one reason why a once happy engineer is now struggling to complete basic tasks, and they are often hard to find and explain or to relate to simple explanations like these (which is why more and more people are turning to therapy for answers). You raise good questions, but thousands more could be asked: Ar…
I think mental health is way over blown in terms of complexity. >My point is that there are rarely easy answers to easy questions such as these I'd argue these are all binary questions and pretty easy to answer: >Eating nutritious food? : Yes/No >Sleeping enough?: Yes/No >Are you taking care of your foundations? Yes/No based on above plus Yes/No to "Sufficient Exercise?" >Do you have any bad habits or trauma that you…
> An easy happiness formula is
I literally do all 8 of those things and I'm depressed as fuck. Maybe mental health is harder than you think?
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#107Re: Prioritize mental health, and why communication is so important
#108Also, find the right manager and the right role. With a manager that expects a highly regimented routine, you probably aren't going to do so well. With a manager that lets you explore and be more creative, you might do a lot better.
I've found one of my own strengths is in finding ways to use existing features, maybe with slight modifications, together to do the things that customers want, allowing the team to avoid several large projects and the resulting maintenance burden entirely. My first manager understood the value of that and we worked really well together for a few years. After a reorg, my subsequent manager considered it lazy and PIP after six months. I don't fault them, and different management styles work for different people. But make sure you find someone you're compatible with.
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#109I appreciate the candor and wish the best for you.
Sadly, I will also tell you that once you do resume your job search, this post is going to hurt your chances.
It shouldn't. It really, really shouldn't. I don't respect my colleagues who reject people for stuff like this. But I can't change the world.
I don't have a solution other than to make such posts private and share only with people you trust. Or start a new blog on a new domain so employers don't associate it with you.
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#110Earlier quoted context omitted.
If you recognize yourself in that post, then what you recognize is called negative self talk . The only advice I have for you is to learn to recognize how this pattern makes things worse and to learn (or be taught) how to stop that pattern. The blog post is a textbook self-flagellation and I have no doubt author returns to it to feel worse about themselves in some twisted attempt to motivate positive change.
In the last day I've spent a couple hours in a negativity loop. My wife doesn't know it, but she snapped me out of it and it's nice to see your comment as another reminder to avoid going down that path
Brother(i think), I feel you. Some days the rumination is awful, and it's good you have someone that reminds you of the good stuff.
My kids are like that - total blank slate joy machines at this age. And I assure you - fundamental optimism is ok everyone can improve their outlook and/or lot in life.