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> If my father were here, I'd ask him. He'd find the best path for me, and I'd trust that it was truly the best. you have to find your own path because YOU are responsible for your own life.
Your difficulty may be rooted in psychology. Many do not like discussing “psychological temperaments” because they are not “scientific enough”, though you yourself are of a culture who can recognize that even science does not adequately explain everything. By standards of psychological temperament, it would seem that your father was “introspective” and you are “extrospective”. In brief, those who are “introspective”…
My father worked in signals, first in the armed forces and then railway signals and telephone lines for his whole life. When I was young I was interested in Electronics, but not too great with them. I did study a degree in Electrical and Electronic Engineering but preferred the computer parts of the course and have since then been working in IT for nearly 30 years. I can understand how your fathers advice is importan…
Your difficulty may be rooted in psychology. Many do not like discussing “psychological temperaments” because they are not “scientific enough”, though you yourself are of a culture who can recognize that even science does not adequately explain everything. By standards of psychological temperament, it would seem that your father was “introspective” and you are “extrospective”. In brief, those who are “introspective”…
Then how can i be sure if i am working on the right sector ? How can i be sure that i am competent and capable at the right job ??
You will not overcome this with everything buzzing in your mind. Take every opportunity to unplug, self isolate, and ground yourself in silence. Breath. Let the anxiety evaporate from you, at least for those moments. Nothingness is your friend, your closest intimate companion. It is a challenging skill which must be practiced.
I don’t know your environment, I like to take long walks. Sometimes loosing myself in exercise. Sure I sometimes “meditate” only that is the opposite of how it sounds.
Competence and capability are like good hygiene. You have a little nagging voice inside you that says keep the lines neat, tie up the ends, clean up afterwards, and then the loud pressing urge to just get the job done, do only what is required, and react to a million things confronting you.
In every situation endure without complaint, giving more than was asked, seeing through the finer details even when not explicitly demanded of you will transform you into a respected person of capacity.
It is always harder in the beginning, your investments will pay off. When I was just getting started I used to say motivational things to myself like “form, focus, patience” or “integrity, principle, devotion”. Some mantra that suits you may drown out the self doubt and leave your attention for your personal growth!
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. Brother you know about as good as I know that whatever is intended for you to achieve and earn in this life is wholly independent of you or myself or anyone else and Who that Power belongs to. Be thankful for having a father who set you off in the direction that you hoped was best for your professional future. I'm confident in you that you've taken the time to sit and think about…
Brother, you know what? I actually have absolutely no fear about the future. Wallahi i don't. I firmly believe that if Allah has taken something from our hands, He surely has the power to provide for us in return. But still, when it comes to my family -who are a sacred trust left to me by my father- I feel the heavy responsibility of needing to choose the best possible profession. I feel deeply obligated to work hard…
May Allah make this all easy for you. Ameen.