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If you need to read and act on a list like this, I suspect you're not in a happy relationship.
If you don't need to read and act on a list like this I suspect you're probably not being honest with yourself.
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If you don't need to read and act on a list like this I suspect you're probably not being honest with yourself.
Seriously? My gf of 6 years and I do all of those things. Instinctively I guess.
Instead, I recommend this article on conflict resolution and interaction antipatterns based on the research of Dr John Gottman: http://www.helpstartshere.org/Default.aspx?PageID=1113
I also like the concepts of Non-Violent Communication (though the book's tone is somewhat leaden in parts).
There is certainly a place for improving relationships beyond conflict resolution, but its relative importance should be emphasized. By merely mentioning an aspect of conflict resolution in point 4 in this 10-point list, the article sends the wrong message.
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That would be interesting.
It wouldn't be on an obscure blog, that's for sure. Front page, New York Times, tomorrow. It would be close to the #1 piece of information that people want to know.
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If you don't need to read and act on a list like this I suspect you're probably not being honest with yourself.
Seriously? My gf of 6 years and I do all of those things. Instinctively I guess.
I'm not saying every relationship becomes routine/boring/sour/whatever, but often the sorts of things listed in the article slowly disappear from a relationship because of outside stresses. And those little things are important...
EDIT: That first line seems really bitter, and it's not meant to be. I've been married for 12 years, and we've together for nearly 20. My wife and I still enjoy each other, but there are times that those stresses (work, school, kids, life) make you forget about those little things. If you can keep the "good nights" and "have a good days" going through the worst of times, you're in good shape.
I am not a big fan of the article, though I can understand others may enjoy it. I don't like especially off topic posts on HN though. Just my 2 cents. I won't flag it, but I am surprised it was voted to the front page.
I like HN because of the wide variety of interesting things here. Yes, most of that is tech/entrepreneurship related, but things like this are interesting as well.
I wouldn't want 10 articles like this on the front page, but for most of us who are married/in a relationship, this serves as a useful reminder.
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If you don't need to read and act on a list like this I suspect you're probably not being honest with yourself.
Seriously? My gf of 6 years and I do all of those things. Instinctively I guess.
Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” *which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world*.
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If you don't need to read and act on a list like this I suspect you're probably not being honest with yourself.
Seriously? My gf of 6 years and I do all of those things. Instinctively I guess.
It doesn't hurt to be reminded that each other's happiness is important, even if you think your relationship is as good as it can be. :)