I have 3 teenagers and this claim seems plainly obvious to me.
Becoming a dad changes men's brains
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Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#42Earlier quoted context omitted.
With the first kid you sterilize everything. After that I guess you learn how much dirt they put in their mouths and don't bother.
I have 3 kids. When they started on solids: #1 got fancy home made baby food, like cheesy chicken broccoli frozen into ice cube chunks. #2 got steamed yams and crackers. #3 got whatever we were eating, ripped into baby-sized chunks. All are fine.
I have two, both adults now. The first one, if she woke up early and I was still asleep, would politely come over and say that she was hungry.
The second one, though, she was a scavenger. I woke up to her crunching on something. She was eating pistachios -- shell and all!
Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#43Earlier quoted context omitted.
I have 3 kids. When they started on solids: #1 got fancy home made baby food, like cheesy chicken broccoli frozen into ice cube chunks. #2 got steamed yams and crackers. #3 got whatever we were eating, ripped into baby-sized chunks. All are fine.
It's likely that your number 3 child is both the smartest and best looking. Not sure what that has to do with diet but it can't be a coincidence
This is written like a number 3 child. ;-)
Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#44Exaggerating a bit, I felt like my old self was dead and I just happened to somehow have inherited his memories. But a more concrete thing: While before I might have been saddened about bad things happening to kids, like any normal person would, after having kids myself I experience an stronger reaction: I get almost physically ill when I hear about kids getting harmed.
Same here, I can't even read articles on BBC about child abusers, it makes me nauseous just to skim over a title.
I was saddened by just the headline and photo of the one last week.
The BBC and UK news readers in general absolutely love stories about child abusers, so they get prominent placing (and even a live blog on the sentencing last week)
Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#45I had nightmares about bad things happening to me before. Like, getting ran over by a car, or falling off a cliff.
When my wife got pregnant, it stopped. I started having nightmares about bad things happening to my son instead.
Fun.
Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#46Exaggerating a bit, I felt like my old self was dead and I just happened to somehow have inherited his memories. But a more concrete thing: While before I might have been saddened about bad things happening to kids, like any normal person would, after having kids myself I experience an stronger reaction: I get almost physically ill when I hear about kids getting harmed.
>Exaggerating a bit, I felt like my old self was dead and I just happened to somehow have inherited his memories.
I had a small mental breakdown anticipating that this was going to happen while my wife was pregnant with our first. It didn't. I ended up replacing the part of my life that was video escapism with kids and kept everything else the same. Three kids in, things are going great.
>I get almost physically ill when I hear about kids getting harmed.
Replace ill with enraged and I have had the same experience. The strong emotions were a bit of a surprise.
Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#47Earlier quoted context omitted.
With the first kid you sterilize everything. After that I guess you learn how much dirt they put in their mouths and don't bother.
I have 3 kids. When they started on solids: #1 got fancy home made baby food, like cheesy chicken broccoli frozen into ice cube chunks. #2 got steamed yams and crackers. #3 got whatever we were eating, ripped into baby-sized chunks. All are fine.
Kuddos on the big family, such an accomplishment. I must note, the first strategy is better for their brain tho, actually, I dislike reasoning around the education (I count feeding in it as it's extremely important to develop the brain) about what's fine and not what's best, because it's a slippery slope where you feel that small actions don't have such an importance, but after all it's the compounding of small (and better) actions that matter the most to improve intelligence and other aspects of a future adult. It's like sending your kids to a public school, sure, it's "fine", but let's not say it's optimal and it does have an impact in the end.
I have a 2-year old daughter so I can relate in part, she just joined a pre-school now (breaks my heart to drop her) and same as your #1 - top notch nutrition, supps, probitiocs and so-on (deeply studied & argued) and chef level taste, never had once something in her mouth that isn't vouched :p
Chose breastfeeding entirely for the first 6 months (better for their brain as per my knowledge), then introduced solids progressively, I'm super grateful to be in the AI era at the same moment I've had my daughter because it allows me to study extensively everything regarding children.
Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#48Exaggerating a bit, I felt like my old self was dead and I just happened to somehow have inherited his memories. But a more concrete thing: While before I might have been saddened about bad things happening to kids, like any normal person would, after having kids myself I experience an stronger reaction: I get almost physically ill when I hear about kids getting harmed.
Same here, I can't even read articles on BBC about child abusers, it makes me nauseous just to skim over a title.
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Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#49Fascinating how things that are most relevant to continuing your species are the things with the hardest coded behaviors.
and yet: paternal filial cannibalism
Re: Becoming a dad changes men's brains
#50Exaggerating a bit, I felt like my old self was dead and I just happened to somehow have inherited his memories. But a more concrete thing: While before I might have been saddened about bad things happening to kids, like any normal person would, after having kids myself I experience an stronger reaction: I get almost physically ill when I hear about kids getting harmed.
I was surprised how sudden the change was - I didn't become a dad to my kid, I became a dad to all kids within sight or sound . Sure, most of the time I don't have to do anything, but I certainly notice much more now.
I already feel like this and I don't have kids or want kids.