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Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by SenHeng »

russdill wrote: post #416
mcculley wrote: post #413

The modern world is funny. I have a hearing impairment, tinnitus, and use both AirPods and less visible hearing aids to hear people better. I only wear the AirPods around people who know me well enough to know that I am wearing them so that I can better hear them. I don’t want strangers to think I don’t want to hear them or that I am being rude. When I am out among strangers, I wear the less visible hearing aids. But…

Wouldn't it be cool if this situation could be detected and when you hit pause it would actually repeat them for you?

So you want your magical EarPods to be always listening and recording everything from the past, say 5 seconds?

Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by poncho_romero »

techdmn wrote: post #308
GJim wrote: post #154

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Have you tried simply telling people you don't want to talk? "Sorry mate, I'm reading" is hardly difficult.

This is actually very difficult for a significant number of people. Some people really struggle with saying "no" or enforcing boundaries, some people are very wary of negative interactions with strangers. If you are relying on people to explicitly push back on you, rather than reading more subtle queues, you are quite likely adding stress to someone's day.

I think most will pick up on subtle cues. That said, there is nothing wrong with being direct. And for those people who struggle with saying no, well, practice makes perfect.

Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by poncho_romero »

saghm wrote: post #333
brailsafe wrote: post #97

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I think it's a mistake to conflate passive signaling with asserting oneself, and whether you like the interaction you might have otherwise had or not (as long as it's not clearly harassment or something) it would be rude to ignore people in public whether that rudeness is delegated to technology or not. It's just another way of turning up one's nose, and it's a gross way to operate imo. If you don't like the people y…

I think your attitude that going out in public is tacitly opting into interactions with strangers is a much more gross way to operate. The assumption that it's easy to just politely decline a conversation (and that not doing so in the form of a conversation itself) seems like an extremely narrow-minded point of view based on your own subjective experience. You're conflating social anxiety with the desire to "assert o…

What is the public if not the space where we interact with others?

Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by browningstreet »

goodmythical wrote: post #374
cassepipe wrote: post #348

To be fair when you live in a big city and you have to take the subway all the time, it just feels physically nice to remove the background noise whether it's the noise of the train itself or the musicians or the people asking loudly for money. I don't even have airpods, I have good old earplugs because I often too lazy to choose the soundtrack of my own life. It's not that don't want to talk to unknown people, it's…

That's kind of the point the article is making though, isn't it? You're making a choice to insulate yourself from your surroundings. That choice has effects on both you and your environment. You see it as a simple salve, but the poor souls you're choosing to ignore see it as a just another bourgeoisie wall. I used to live in a prison. Headphones were a huge fighting issue. People who couldn't afford them would borrow…

A buffer isn’t necessarily isolation or insulation.

Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by poncho_romero »

jnovek wrote: post #281
CosmicShadow wrote: post #260

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I think if you are in public, you can't expect to be in private. You can try, but it obviously doesn't always work and we are exposed to all types when out of the house.

This has nothing to do with expectation of privacy. Private setting or public setting, it’s rude to bother people who are busy.

Some of you are unwell.

Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by poncho_romero »

ChoGGi wrote: post #331
Anthony-G wrote: post #270

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Similar experience here. I grew up in rural Ireland in the 80s where you said hello to everyone but had a culture shock when I moved to Dublin for college. I quickly realised that you don’t greet everyone. I put it down to a being a matter of scale: in the countryside, it’s easy to say hello to everyone when you’ll usually encounter only a small number of people. It’d be impossible to say hello to everyone in a big c…

I usually see a hand wave, or lazy salute around rural Western Canada. Probably a rural everywhere thing?

Common in rural eastern Canada too.

Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by dpkirchner »

microtonal wrote: post #149
exmadscientist wrote: post #45

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Talking to strangers is a skill. You can practice it! I've made a point of trying to practice, albeit halfheartedly, and even though it's difficult for me, because I like it when other people try to talk to me . Earbuds stop this practice dead in its tracks. You can't deny that.

Talking to strangers is a skill. You can practice it! I've made a point of trying to practice, albeit halfheartedly, and even though it's difficult for me, because I like it when other people try to talk to me. It is definitely something one can learn. I also like it very much. Most people are just very nice and love chatting a bit as well (just be respectful of their time and know when to bow out). There are also ot…

> Most people are just very nice and love chatting a bit as well

In my experience, this depends on the context. Everywhere I've lived the only time strangers try to talk to me is to either a) ask for directions (1%) or b) beg for money (99%).

I see people in these comments suggesting we should just say no thanks I don't want to chat -- I'd have to repeat that a dozen times a day. It's exhausting and I don't gain anything from it. I figure these folks must live in totally different locations.

> I came from a small village where it is normal to greet people and maybe chat, even if you don't know them.

Yeah, I could see that. If my village/city wasn't plagued by petition beggars or money beggars or merchant beggars I'd probably be more interested in engaging.

Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by GJim »

Der_Einzige wrote: post #380
GJim wrote: post #220

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Stupidly dangerous and (in my country) illegal. Please retract your comment and don't encourage such stupidity. EDIT: Since this is being misinterpreted... Earplugs that deaden sound are fine and encouraged on a motorbike, playing music in your ears is what masks other sound and is both stupid and illegal.

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Re: The AirPods Effect

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Post by poncho_romero »

fundad wrote: post #111
basisword wrote: post #54

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>> I try avoid inviting weirdos to complain about minorities or marginalized people from someone who has driven away anyone close to them. I would suggest that it's your avoidance of talking to strangers that makes you think this is how a lot of them think. And it kind of proves the point that society can suffer because of it. If you went out tomorrow and talked to 100 random strangers for 10mins I'd be surprised if…

I said in my post that I DO talk to strangers. It makes me feel good when that’s what I want. It’s also true that most of y’all are sus AF.

I find your negative view of humanity saddening. I think most people are basically good.
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