Amazing debugging, I loved reading that. HN doesn't get enough good posts like this anymore :) If https://github.com/pion/sctp/issues/12 had happened (not just in Pion but across all implementations) this could have been fixed years ago. The hardcoding we all settle for is tragic.
"The hardcoding we all settle for" might be the epigraph for the whole incident. webrtc-rs invited a PR for the configurable-MTU + better default half [webrtc-rs/webrtc#806] to unblock folks today. Whether PMTUD gets implemented will be interesting to see.