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I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

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Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

#11

Give me the freedom to end my life when I want to end it and you don't have to care about my care and I bet I am not the only one.

Sure, but a lot of those elderly people have some significant degree of dementia. That make it difficult to go out on your own terms.

Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

#12

Give me the freedom to end my life when I want to end it and you don't have to care about my care and I bet I am not the only one.

Can you guarantee that you will feel the same as your mobility becomes more and more restricted?

Do you think that your current resolve is correct for everyone around you, and should be generally mandated?

I agree to a reluctance to rely upon others, in the face of infirmity, but will I have the courage to forego that reliance in euthasia? I don't know.

Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

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post #11

Give me the freedom to end my life when I want to end it and you don't have to care about my care and I bet I am not the only one.

Sure, but a lot of those elderly people have some significant degree of dementia. That make it difficult to go out on your own terms.

This can be covered in advance, when you can set what to do with your organs after death, or whether to resuscitate you or not and so on, it can be done for this scenario.

In advanced societies of course, but we have few and unfortunate people travel from far and wide to reach those services.

Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

#14

Personally I feel like it would be less undignified and infantilising to have a machine take care of my basic bodily functions than a human being. There's no feeling of judgement or being shamed in front of someone else, and the machine could even restore a feeling of autonomy since it would feel like you're using a tool instead of being helplessly reliant on another person's help.

More likely than not, a human would be remote controlling it, at least at times. So, they're there, you just can't see them seeing you.

I think this is more of a cultural problem. Aging is a normal part of life.

Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

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I'm assuming that they've not been to a "normal" UK carehome now. Its staffed with minimum wage workers who are in perilous conditions, with no support, time or backup. They are cleaning shit a piss all day long, and being shouted at for being foreign by the demented.

Not much different than the US, really. I had to hire some at-home care for a relative with brain cancer, and almost all of them were drunk on the job, falling asleep when they were supposed to be monitoring at night, or getting offended at something their patient said, who's mental state resembles that of a psychotic 8 year old. Oh and if you don't lock shit up, some of them will steal.

At a certain point, you fire so many there aren't any left in the area. I moved my relative to another area for unrelated reasons, but it was the same story at the new place too.

There were a few really good ones tbh, but 95% were in private care because nobody else would hire them.

Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

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post #12

Give me the freedom to end my life when I want to end it and you don't have to care about my care and I bet I am not the only one.

Can you guarantee that you will feel the same as your mobility becomes more and more restricted? Do you think that your current resolve is correct for everyone around you, and should be generally mandated? I agree to a reluctance to rely upon others, in the face of infirmity, but will I have the courage to forego that reliance in euthasia? I don't know.

> and should be generally mandated?

or even encouraged?

Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

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I'm assuming that they've not been to a "normal" UK carehome now. Its staffed with minimum wage workers who are in perilous conditions, with no support, time or backup. They are cleaning shit a piss all day long, and being shouted at for being foreign by the demented.

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Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

#18

Give me the freedom to end my life when I want to end it and you don't have to care about my care and I bet I am not the only one.

The UK parliament just spent a year and a half on an assisted dying Bill, but then it ran out of parliamentry time. So the powers that be decided no

Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

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I'm assuming that they've not been to a "normal" UK carehome now. Its staffed with minimum wage workers who are in perilous conditions, with no support, time or backup. They are cleaning shit a piss all day long, and being shouted at for being foreign by the demented.

Not much different than the US, really. I had to hire some at-home care for a relative with brain cancer, and almost all of them were drunk on the job, falling asleep when they were supposed to be monitoring at night, or getting offended at something their patient said, who's mental state resembles that of a psychotic 8 year old. Oh and if you don't lock shit up, some of them will steal. At a certain point, you fire…

Did you go through an agency or a private hire? I took care of my dad in his final months during Covid. The hospital gave him Covid and then forcibly discharged him, so none of the agencies wanted to deal with him. I was able to find someone who wanted direct work and who was not daunted by the 'rona. They were fantastic. But of course one person can't do every day or around the clock care. I had another great mother+daughter+third care team lined up for when it was time to ramp up even more (they had taken care of my uncle), but (un)fortunately I never got quite there.

Re: I have seen the dystopian future of elderly care

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post #12

Give me the freedom to end my life when I want to end it and you don't have to care about my care and I bet I am not the only one.

Can you guarantee that you will feel the same as your mobility becomes more and more restricted? Do you think that your current resolve is correct for everyone around you, and should be generally mandated? I agree to a reluctance to rely upon others, in the face of infirmity, but will I have the courage to forego that reliance in euthasia? I don't know.

I agree with your parent comment. People should have the option to go on their own terms. Maybe many people won’t have the courage (as you phrased it) to do it, but that shouldn’t stop the ones who do.

I recently learned of the term “medical divorce”. Elderly couples divorcing, so they’re not saddled with the medical bills if one of them passes away. How insanely cruel is this? Is allowing people to go out on their own terms worse than this?

I don’t know about “generally mandated” but if I am lucid enough to decide, I should be allowed to. It is more humane, safer, cleaner to do with medical professionals than jumping from a bridge.

Our choices are either improve healthcare, elder care so people spend their last years in dignity or give them other options. By now, We have proven that we cannot or will not make healthcare, elder care affordable (it would be ideal to make it affordable). Which leaves us with what other options? Birth rates are falling almost across the world , we’ll have more and more older folks

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