Within most languages, you're operating at a semantic level where much of the "point" is already obviated for you. They deal with fundamental structure that you take completely for granted, and you use it all implicitly. A monad is very simple at the core of it, it's an ordered collection, flattened into a single context. What you're collecting, what that ordering means, what that context is, etc. define what the monad is used for.
You could do IO? IO requires temporal ordering. Take for instance:
print("Hello ")
print("World!\n")
Would obviously result in:
Hello World!
But would it? You are implicitly assuming that the first line will be evaluated and print before the second. It's a reasonable assumption to make, most programming languages embed that in their execution semantics. What if I told you that the assumption isn't actually guaranteed? What if we didn't give that temporal ordering in the same way? What if for instance, a function could return a result without evaluating its arguments? This is called non-strict evaluation (note: this does not necessarily mean lazy evaluation). In the case of a non-strict language, you would need some way to tell the program that the first line should happen before the second before you can do any kind of IO. For a strict language, the IO monad doesn't make sense because you don't
need to tell the program that.
Haskell is almost like a metalanguage. You're describing a program, but it's not like describing a program in Python or Scheme. You are expressing a program in graph reduction, and that's very different compared to how you're used to thinking of computer programs. That's the practical reason why Haskell has the IO and State monads, because they reify as a temporal grounding for instructions. Your program has a completely different concept of flow than in the real world, and these are tools you have to bridge that gap. It's important to note, this is just a very specific usecase of monads.
If you find treatment to be shallow, it's probably because you're looking for answers in shallow contexts. I used to be as confused as you, and the answer I eventually discovered is because I was ignorant of my own ignorance. I needed a healthy dose of computational philosophy to broach the subject. As someone else has said, once you understand it, it can be hard to explain it to someone who doesn't understand it. It's not a short topic to be learned in a series of twitter posts or a blog. It's something you come to understand after a lot of exposure and study and careful rumination. And of course, primary sources.