How to be anti-social – a guide to incoherent and isolating social experiences
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#2> dig in your heels when confronted with overwhelming dissent
Of course, the majority is always right and we should yield to it right away /s
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#3As someone who identifies as autistic, after particularly notable social encounters, I describe them, best I can, to ChatGPT, and damned if the thing doesn't explain why people reacted the way they did so I can do better next time.
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#4This list is actually just narcissism combined with low self-esteem.
For younger introverts, none of this behavior is necessarily anti-social if the group all shares these same traits. The moment a member of that group has any higher self-esteem than the rest, they will either see that individual as "cool" or as a threat (or both).
To be truly anti-social is to either completely isolate yourself, or be unrelentingly and unreasonably hostile in all interactions. This list is neither. It's just passive aggressive and a lot of ego.
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#5> pivot conversations when someone challenges your assumptions or cites reasoning outside your wheelhouse
It’s curious how many people do this. Especially if you try to address their deeply-held beliefs, they’ll just start talking about something else.
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#6> dig in your heels when confronted with overwhelming dissent Of course, the majority is always right and we should yield to it right away /s
Ever heard the phrase "pick your battles"?
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#7> dig in your heels when confronted with overwhelming dissent Of course, the majority is always right and we should yield to it right away /s
Can I be your friend please.
Also this document is basically just how I act, or how I would still act if I was less self-aware; some combination of the two.
I suspect the author may have written this partly as a self-critique.
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#8As someone who identifies as autistic, after particularly notable social encounters, I describe them, best I can, to ChatGPT, and damned if the thing doesn't explain why people reacted the way they did so I can do better next time.
As someone who identifies as autistic, I learned to smile and just listen. I’ll ask questions and try and put my little anecdotes in but for the most part I just let other people talk. Works reasonably well. I usually run afoul when the situation is serious and I show up with my smile.
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#9> dig in your heels when confronted with overwhelming dissent Of course, the majority is always right and we should yield to it right away /s
You don’t have to accept their conclusions, but they don’t have to accept yours either. You can walk away
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#10As someone who identifies as autistic, after particularly notable social encounters, I describe them, best I can, to ChatGPT, and damned if the thing doesn't explain why people reacted the way they did so I can do better next time.
I've tried this and I'm not sure its explanation is useful. It wasn't there and it only knows what I tell it, so it's missing a lot of context clues.
And I'm probably less autistic than the average HNer.