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Me and my wife started with distance, but we started craving being close within just a few months. We were lucky enough we were able to start living together within 1 year.
As of right now (15 years later), I cannot handle it. After having kids I realized I am a person who heavily need physical contact, I cannot manage a ldr I suspect (nor I want to)
I know several people who have met online like this. I'd concur with the authors that working together to achieve an objective is kind of table stakes for an actual relationship. I've always felt that meeting someone in class and working together on homework and what not was something like that. But the key for me is that when you work with someone on a project you get a better understanding of how they approach thin…
Adding onto this, I feel like the child/children from a marriage like this also get mixed signals from their parents on what they should value in things like this. So firstly it confuses them and secondly, if they pick a side of any of their parent then they would feel like the other parent doesn't get them which might make them feel bad.
For a good marriage/parentalhood imo, there should be a common layer of value stack ie. bedrock of shared values and trust in a relationship. Disagreements can occur but with the idea of we are more similar than different. Maybe Video games help in either checking that or measuring that. I am not sure if competitive games better reflect it than relaxed games but honestly I feel like if you are already into a relationship and say video games don't work, then you also adapt to the other person values.
Anyone know any good cooperative board/card games for two that are: 1. Easy to learn and understand 2. Easy to buy and relatively inexpensive?
My go-to for simple cooperative activity is jigsaw puzzles. Just go at your own pace and enjoy.
I know several people who have met online like this. I'd concur with the authors that working together to achieve an objective is kind of table stakes for an actual relationship. I've always felt that meeting someone in class and working together on homework and what not was something like that. But the key for me is that when you work with someone on a project you get a better understanding of how they approach thin…
This exact difference exists between my wife and I. For example, when her car needed a replacement part, she enlisted her dad in an effort to find the cheapest part on eBay, attempt to replace it themselves, and then shop around for the cheapest mechanic to install the part they bought. When my car needed a part replaced, I took it to the dealership where I bought it. I figured they'd have the part on hand and know how to do it right. They would overcharge, but not a criminal amount.
We've come to an understanding: I like to use money to reduce stress. She likes to save money because it gives her a feeling of accomplishment. Not very different from hobbies.
Anyone know any good cooperative board/card games for two that are: 1. Easy to learn and understand 2. Easy to buy and relatively inexpensive?
The easier coop ones on BGA I found were: Hanabi, the Crew, Forbidden Island. The coop ones that I found outside of coop games were Pandemic and Flash Point.
Anyone know any good cooperative board/card games for two that are: 1. Easy to learn and understand 2. Easy to buy and relatively inexpensive?
When I broke my leg in 2006, I had a Windows machine and a modem. I searched around to discover a game that could occupy my free time. I wanted a puzzle game: I knew that much. I was looking for multiplayer games, so I happened to find “Yohoho! Puzzle Pirates” whose introductory game, Bilging, was essentially “Bejeweled” in a co-op MMOG context. I loved the game and the concept so much that I stuck around for years.…
Awww I am sorry your piratey romance didn’t work out, people can definitely turn out to be different from their pirates, but I hope Puzzle Pirates (my game) was overall a positive experience for you. It’s nice to see it mentioned on HN. It’s still online today with a crew of quite salty pirates ;)