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Re: AI overly affirms users asking for personal advice

#11
We can surely fix it and we probably should. However, I don't think AI is doing any worse here than friends advice when they here a one sided story. The only difference being that it's not getting studied.

Conversely, AI chatbots are great mediators if both parties are present in the conversation.

Re: AI overly affirms users asking for personal advice

#12
post #5

There is a striking data visualization showing the breakup advice trend over 15 years on Reddit. You can see the "End relationship" line spike as AI and algorithmic advice take over: https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/1o87cy4/oc...

More interesting, IMO, is the general trend that started long before LLMs. The fact that "dump them" is the standard answer to any relationship question is a meme by now. The LLMs appear to be doing exactly what one would expect them to be doing based on their training corpus.

"There is more than one fish in the sea" has been relationship advice for centuries. It might be about being dumped, but I've also thought it useful for considering dumping somebody too.

Re: AI overly affirms users asking for personal advice

#14
Maybe it's not so sensible to offload the responsibility of clear thinking to AI companies?

How is a chatbot supposed to determine when a user fools even themselves about what they have experienced?

What 'tough love' can be given to one who, having been so unreasonable throughout their lives - as to always invite scorn and retort from all humans alike - is happy to interpret engagement at all as a sign of approval?

Re: AI overly affirms users asking for personal advice

#15
I think if you're at the stage of life where you even need to ask, the AI might be doing everyone a favor.

As much as people whine about the birth rate and whatever else, I think it's a net good that people spend a lot more time alone to mature. Good relationships are underappreciated.

Re: AI overly affirms users asking for personal advice

#17

This new Stanford study published on March 26, 2026 shows that AI models are sycophantic. They affirm the users position 49% more often than a human would. The researchers found that when people use AI for relationship advice, they become 25% more convinced they are 'right' and significantly less likely to apologize or repair the connection.

To be fair an average therapist is also pretty sycophantic. "The worst person you know is being told by their therapist that they did the right thing" is a bit of a meme, but isn't completely false in my experience.

Re: AI overly affirms users asking for personal advice

#18
post #4

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Isn't the fact that a person is asking an AI whether to leave their partner in its own an indication that they should? EDIT: typo

How is it an indication? I think people on here don't realize that most of the people don't think things through as much as (software) engineers

Wait, other people don’t make decision trees and mind maps and pro/con lists and consult chatbots before making decisions? Are they just flying through life by the seat of their pants? That doesn’t seem like a very solid framework for achieving desired outcomes.

Re: AI overly affirms users asking for personal advice

#20
There are plenty of sycophantic humans around, especially with regard to relationship advice.

I find there is an inverse relationship between how willing people are to give relationship advice, and how good their advice is (whether looking at sycophancy or other factors).

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